(Closed) Confused…Gifts at Showers AND Reception?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Busy bee

At your bridal shower, you get stuff.  At your wedding, you get money.  That’s how it’s done in my area, at least…I know in other places, money is rarely given and people only give you stuff.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Where I live, you give a gift for the shower (from the registry generally) and then you give another gift at the wedding (either from the registry or it can be money). I think many people give registry gifts though. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that both should be considered wedding gifts. Thats honestly how your guest know what to get you. Some will get you lingere and personal touches and some will look at your registry and purchase stuff for you off there.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I had the same question. A good friend of mine from high school is getting married in March and she is having a bridal shower in Feb. I’ve never been to a bridal shower before?? Lol. So I get her something from her registry then…..lol

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is the norm here to purchase a gift for each bridal shower you attend. Some showers have a theme, so the gift is purchased in accordance with the theme- time of day,lingerie, kitchen, backyard, wine etc.

Practice varies re wedding gifts, It seems about evenly divided between those who give a cheque and those who purchase something off the registry.

The one major difference I notice between where I live and the USA Bees who post here, is that brides are not nearly as involved in planning showers here. They are planned and hosted by others- and that  does not include the bride’s immediate family.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

every party = a new gift

one couple i was friends with had:

engagement party

bridal shower

wedding reception 

= 3 gifts

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Where I live, extravegant bridal showers aren’t common. Most people only receive gifts at their wedding, and engagement party if they have one.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Where I live it’s gift or money for shower and money for wedding. It’s very common these days to give money. Usually it was only certain eastern cultures to give money as a gift (ex $100 per guest) but now a lot of people in the west are hopin on the money train

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MrsTCB:  Oooh I do like the idea of 3 gifts (haha). To be honest, I would worry that people would just bring a gift to the engagement party that I wouldn’t want or have any need for…and then come empty handed to the wedding after a registry has been put in place! Have you heard of anything like that happening?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I had a bridal shower and got some nice gifts and don’t expect another gift from those people at my wedding but one of my bm told me that she believes people give another gift at wedding, I’ve heard that but I’m not expecting it but if they do give me 2 gifts I am not complaining 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@Sheepshead:  I never registered for my engagement party or expected to get any gifts from anyone and was quite surprised when a handful of people gave us presents, we got a digital picture frame, $130 in cash, a wedding planning book, champagne glasses, and a bottle of champagne. I accepted it gracefully but really didn’t even know people took gifts to engagement parties but I was pleasantly surprised 🙂

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@MrsTCB:  every party = a new gift  <— Yes, this

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@fharris:  I think that a person should get you a separate wedding and a separate shower gift.  Generally the shower gift might be smaller….for example I would probably spend under 50 for someone’s shower gift and closer to 100 for a wedding gift.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@Sheepshead:  We received a few small gifts for our engagement party – a nice bottle of champagne, a gift card to World Market, gift card to this beer place that my FH really likes, and a nice picture frame.  Didn’t expect anything, but they were all nice gestures.

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