(Closed) Confusing family issues. Cousin getting married, I'm not invited.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

It kind of seems like he has…which sucks.  =(  I would try to continue to be nice, and hopefully he’ll eventually get over it.  But that’s a pretty big thing to get over — not your involvement, but the SIL cheating thing…

Post # 4
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh, that’s a mess… and I really understand that you’re confused and hurt. If I were you, I would talk to your husband about this first – trying to find a strategy to get J back into your life. Perhaps you could ask him if both of them could come over for dinner and a conversation some day – to make it clear how you feel about the entire situation. If they just assume that you’re on your SIL’s side, you’ll have to correct that – as unfair as that is.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

As painful as it is, I think you just to write J out of your life. His new wife can’t physically force him to do anything he doesn’t want to – the decision to leave you out of their wedding must have been his too. Either he agrees with his Fiance in her negative feelings about you, or he is letting her push him around on this issue. Either way, I don’t think confronting him is going to change anything.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never understood why people get blamed by association for their siblings’ behaviour. Your SIL is obviously a nasty piece of work in some ways, but why does that translate to her brother (your DH)?

But you can’t force people to like you. As we say over and over to brides, “your wedding your choice”. If J wants to snub you, you can’t stop him 🙁

ETA: Are D and SIL invited to the wedding?

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