- 5 years ago
Pretty weird and possibly confusing story here. I’m gonna try to make it as short but as understandable as possible.
In 2008, my cousin (J) started dating and had a baby with the girl who is now my SIL. While J was with SIL, she introduced me to her brother and the rest is history.
The entire time SIL and J were together, apparently SIL was having an affair with J’s brother, my cousin (D). I pretty much knew the entire time from a gut feeling. Many, many other people noticed their inappropriate relationship, too. At one point, my uncle confronted D. D vehemently denied any relationship between he and SIL. Even when I casually mentioned something, he denied it.
Come to find out, SIL and D had been sleeping together since about four or five months into SIL’s relationship with J. To this very day, SIL does not know if the father of her son is J or D. SIL did everything she could to get J to break up with her because she was in love with D. She was very mean to J. Eventually, in January 2011, he left her. A few months later, J met a girl and moved in with her and that’s when SIL and D came public with their relationship (they pretended they’d only been dating since after J left, but I think everyone knows better).
Okay, hopefully you’ve kept up this long.
Anyway, J’s current girlfriend has NEVER liked me. I have tried and tried to reach out to her when she comes to family functions, but she just turns her nose up at me and literally ignores me. She’s never nice, no matter how nice I am to her. J and I used to be super close, so this bothers me. He has nothing to do with me, either, since getting with his girlfriend. I honestly think that the girlfriend does not like me because I married SIL’s brother. I assume she thinks that I love my SIL and am loyal to her, or something, but obviously my SIL is not the caliber of person I tend to associate myself with. I guess it bothers J’s gf that I am family to her bf’s ex. Not too sure why it would bother her, though. I definitely would NEVER encourage J to take SIL back, nor would I want him to.
Today, Darling Husband went over to D and SIL’s house. They told him that J was getting married this weekend. Umm, what?! I was not invited, of course. This is the very first I’ve heard of this, period. It really hurt my feelings because like I said, I used to be close to J. No, their wedding is not so small that they wouldn’t have invited me. They just chose not to. They also refused to come to mine.
Ughh, what do you think this girl’s deal is? My cousin can’t just cut me out of his life because I married into his ex’s family, can he?