- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hello all! Never thought I will find this site and so grateful I did~
About me- 34, dance instructor/performance artiste, married once many years ago, but its over now and all is good, had a few relationships after which never work out do to my job or me not developing feelings.
About SO- 25, met 1 and half years ago whilst I was travelling, we were just casual dating friends at first and then started to see each other more and more. SO had his own business in another country then but kept returning to the country I was in just to see me and eventually sold his business to be with me.
When I first met SO i thought he was just a silly young boy and just went out on dates, without any expectations and he was not really what I was looking for being too young and I had a very different man in mind. Days turn into weeks turn into months and here we are, been dating exclusivley for 1yr and 2 months
We both love to travel alot and cooking is our passion together :))
SO and I started to live together 8 months ago, but because of our jobs now, we have been apart for almost 3 months and reunite 2 weeks from now.We have promise each other that we will never have to go through such a long seperation ever unless it was a situation of life and death. Before we were seperated, we joked about marriage, a house, kids and he would tease me by calling me by his last name, I thought it was kind of cute..he then started to tell me that he has plans for us and he can’t wait to buy our first house together and what kind of wedding we will have blah, blah..one romantic dinner evening, a little happy tipsy from wine, we had verbally proposed to each other, we woke the next day still remembering hat was said and promised.
SO and I are from different countries, I had brought up plans last week online chat about going to his home country next year to see if I can get used to living there and perhaps move there someday and we could get our marriage registered, so that we won’t be seperated unnecessary again. He says he’d would like us to travel more, he plans for us to migrate to another country someday and I totally agree, what I am confused now is, he reply that he is not ready to register our marriage and that we should take it slow and perhaps have a proper proposal not when we are tipsy. I got abit frustrated and apologized for bringing it up, beacause to me I was merely voicing out a plan i think might work out for us and told him, no pressures and no expectations but i felt I could never trust what he says or if he is being serious. For 2 days I did not wish to approach the subject but he brought it up again being concerend that I might be angry or thinking of leaving him. He panicked and left many love messages and promises that he will be the man and he wants to make me happy, part of his message “in 2 weeks we meet, let’s meet and we’ll talk, please don;t change your mind about me, you are the one, I promise I will prove it.. blah blah..”
Although I am 34, asian, petite and I look younger than him, I am feeling the years flying by, I do not wish to waste too much of my own time, feel frustrated that he is so much younger, maybe I am wasting time & I am not sure it will be wise to have a child at 39 and beyond..
Am I being stupid to even wish marriage with this guy? I have such confused thoughts right now about staying and going 🙁
Thank you for reading, I am so sorry it’s long…but I just needed to get it off my chest. Kind advice welcome~