(Closed) Confusion about planning a 2nd wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You deserve to have the Wedding you want even if you are getting married for the second time. When it comes to planning the wedding I am not really sure how to tell you to plan it, but I would try to arrange to get married on or around a holiday that the families normally see each other. Would you like a church wedding or an outdoor wedding, or maybe a reception hall?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is your second marriage but you never had a wedding, so it is your 1st wedding and you should plan it as such.

Even though fi and I have a life like most already married couples, I still want the wedding and the white dress and the dancing and I am on a small budget too. Yes we could have said, why bother… just go to the court and get it done with since we already have a life together for 13+ years and 3 kids.  I am soon to be 32 years old and I want the big bang emotion that comes with a wedding day. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you want to have a nice wedding, but dont want to worry about if people will come or not, why dont you and the kids and your Fiance go to an all inclusive type place and have a small wedding on the beach. A lot of places do that now a days, with a couple of tables, a cake, dinner and I even think they do pictures too. Itll be small but memorable.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am going through a similar situation. My ex husband anringgit married and had a dinner, but I wore a red church dress, and I didn’t walk down the aisle or anything. It was actually depressin to me. 

Now I am with the love of my life, who has never been married. I have 3 children. I want my daughters to be the FGs and my son to be the Ring Bearer. I want to wear a white dress and walk down the isle with a bouqet in hand. 

The problem is that my past relationship was really messed up, and I have lost all my friends. I am an only child and don’t have much of an extended family to count on. I too thought maybe I should just do the courthouse thing. 

But I want things to be different this time around. So I decided to have an intimate wedting at my church, with a brunch reception immediately to follow. I will wear a tea length dress, and things will be more casual. My guest list is tiny. Maybe 20 people at most, almost half of that children. 

It might not be idealic, but it will be special to my young children. And I will get to do things I really wanted to do, like wear that white dress. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

you deserve to have the wedding you want, invite them, you may be surprised who comes…but at the end of the day its about you and your SO and your kids. if you want the big white dress and the party with all the trimmings than by God have it!!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

We’re still throwing a traditional wedding even though it’s my second and I figure that some of my family is not going to attend.  Do what you want since it’s your wedding but be prepared for some people to not attend.  It’s their loss for not being a part of your special day.

Post # 12
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5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is my second wedding and we’re doing everything traditionally.  White dress, all that good stuff.

Post # 13
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529 posts
Busy bee

I am in the same situation, this is a second wedding for both of us. In my case we both have kids. He wants something super small and informal and I want something small but more formal. He wants to spend a ton of money on my ring and the honeymoon and not do much for the wedding. I really want something that will be special for us and for our kids. At this point the guest list is around 50 but some people won’t come. Oh and his family is in Texas and won’t come to New England so I feel bad that this is more for me. Second time around is tricky for sure! I think I am just going to do what makes us happy and if no one comes other than our kids and my parents so be it! 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Downtown 202

Four hours away is not far enough that family wouldn’t come for a wedding! Most of my family was four hours away from where we got married, and every one of them showed up. Barring some kind of physical reason they’re not able to travel, it shouldn’t be a problem! You could always have your wedding closer to where your family is if you’re still concerned though.

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