(Closed) Confusion about the whole elope now, reception later deal

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I really don’t understand the point if you are still planning a big party?

Eloping is getting married just the two of you, usually secretly.  You are talking about a small destination wedding.

You can’t treat the party the next day as a wedding, it would be an “at home reception.”

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Because you aren’t supposed to invite only some guests to the ceremony.  If they weren’t witnesses to your marriage, it’s not a wedding reception, it’s a celebration of your earlier marriage.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I was considering doing something similar except that I was planning on having the ceremony out of country and then having a “reception” months later in my home town. I ended up deciding on just having the whole thing where I am though. There is nothing wrong with having your actual wedding and then having a party to celebrate it later. I don’t see the point though in having a ceremony the day before and then having a “reception” the day after. You are still having to plan a big party and a ceremony and you will be travelling in between. I think that your guests might wonder why they weren’t invited to the ceremony as well. There is nothing wrong with getting married and having a celebration of it after the fact but having them within 48 hours, only 5 hours apart geographically, and not inviting everyone to the ceremony doesn’t make sense to me. To be honest I think that this might end up being more stressful trying to organize two events in different places

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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futuremrspst:  Ditto what others have said about it not being easier. My BFF did exactly what you’re talking about- tiny wedding (both sets of parents, one sibling each, me & my fiance, photographer, officiant & couple) about a 5 hour drive away and then a larger “at home” reception. I think it was way more complicated. She had to plan out all the stuff for the destination wedding and all of us stayed the whole weekend because of the drive. Then the reception was just as much work as my traditional “immediately following the ceremony with all the same people” reception. Honestly, the only thing different was that it took up an additional weekend for those of us at both and she got less gifts because people didn’t take the reception that seriously. When you don’t invite people to the actually WED-ing part of the wedding, they think of the reception more as just a party. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Traditionally a reception is a thank you to your guests for attending your ceremony, so i think if i were a guest invited to a reception but not a ceremony i would be a little hurt.

That being said, there is nothing wrong with eloping and then throwing a celebration a month or so later. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would wait a little longer than the day after personally, but that’s just me. We eloped last week, just the two of us to Alaska. We’re having a small family dinner cruise this coming weekend to celebrate. Every one has just been referring to it as our reception, I tried to keep the wording on the invites however as a celebration of our marriage. People understood what it was and no one was hurt or upset. Call it whatever you want and do it however works best for the two of you!

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