(Closed) Congrats — Only said to the man?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve never heard of that. I’m sure you’re right – its probably out of date etiquette. Its funny though – it does make it seem like you’re congratulating the man for getting the woman – and its like you’re saying “Good luck with that jerk!!” to the woman. Kind of funny.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ha! never heard that either, but I guess it’s still around.

My Father-In-Law said “congratulations” to DH and “my condolences” to me!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The older crowd at my church goes by that rule, haha. “Congrats” to the guy for netting a wife, “Best Wishes” to the gal for a future with a good husband.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve heard of this. For the reason that your co-worker stated. I personally like it because the guy should be congratulated on being lucky enough to be with an awesome lady, while the lady should be wished all the best in the future. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yep! It’s true. It’s supposed to imply that the man is the lucky one (obvi!)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The first time I actually heard that was on Mad Men season finale.  The partners were congratulating the main character and his new fiancee and then corrected themselves by saying, “Oh, you’re supposed to say, ‘Best Wishes’ to the woman!”  Learning something new every day!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, it’s true.  I remember Emily Gilmore admonishing Luke on GG about this very same thing!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Yup, it’s an etiquette thing – although I don’t think most people follow it anymore.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’ve heard of it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I never heard it before I got engaged, but I heard it often soon after.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have heard this

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just another stupid “rule” that doesn’t make sense. There was actually a scene in Gilmore Girls about this that was pretty amusing ๐Ÿ™‚ (when Lorelai was going out with Luke and her parents renewed their vows after separating)

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

It’s an old tradition.  The theory is you shouldn’t congratulate a woman for snagging a husband.

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