Post # 1
I announced to my supervisors today at our weekly staff meeting that I am engaged (yay!). They were thrilled.
One had a funny comment that I had never heard before. She congratulated me, but then she said “Oh, I mean ‘best wishes’ to you, and ‘congratulations’ to your fiance. I read somewhere that you shouldn’t say ‘congratulations’ to the female half of the engaged couple, because it makes it seem like she ‘caught him.'” (I laughed because she actually made the motion like she was reeling in a large fish. Haha.)
I have never heard that, but then again, I don’t consider myself an “etiquette expert.” Anyone ever hear about this? I wonder if it used to be part of etiquette but now it is phased out? I’m just being curious… 🙂
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of that. I’m sure you’re right – its probably out of date etiquette. Its funny though – it does make it seem like you’re congratulating the man for getting the woman – and its like you’re saying “Good luck with that jerk!!” to the woman. Kind of funny.
Post # 4
Ha! never heard that either, but I guess it’s still around.
My Father-In-Law said “congratulations” to DH and “my condolences” to me!
Post # 5
The older crowd at my church goes by that rule, haha. “Congrats” to the guy for netting a wife, “Best Wishes” to the gal for a future with a good husband.
Post # 6
I’ve heard of this. For the reason that your co-worker stated. I personally like it because the guy should be congratulated on being lucky enough to be with an awesome lady, while the lady should be wished all the best in the future. 🙂
Post # 7
Yep! It’s true. It’s supposed to imply that the man is the lucky one (obvi!)
Post # 8
The first time I actually heard that was on Mad Men season finale. The partners were congratulating the main character and his new fiancee and then corrected themselves by saying, “Oh, you’re supposed to say, ‘Best Wishes’ to the woman!” Learning something new every day!
Post # 9
Yes, it’s true. I remember Emily Gilmore admonishing Luke on GG about this very same thing!
Post # 10
Yup, it’s an etiquette thing – although I don’t think most people follow it anymore.
Post # 12
I never heard it before I got engaged, but I heard it often soon after.
Post # 13
Hmm… You learn something new everyday 🙂 Thanks Bees!
Post # 15
Just another stupid “rule” that doesn’t make sense. There was actually a scene in Gilmore Girls about this that was pretty amusing 🙂 (when Lorelai was going out with Luke and her parents renewed their vows after separating)
Post # 16
It’s an old tradition. The theory is you shouldn’t congratulate a woman for snagging a husband.