(Closed) Connection between asking parents and paying for the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Did you &/or your FI ask your parents blessing/permission before engagement?
    YES we/he asked them, YES they paid for or contributed to the wedding : (51 votes)
    42 %
    YES we/he asked them, NO they did not pay for or contribute to the wedding : (13 votes)
    11 %
    NO we/he did not ask them, YES they paid for or contributed to the wedding : (40 votes)
    33 %
    NO we/he did not ask them, NO they did not pay for or contribute to the wedding : (17 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    The Future In-Laws offered to help pay for our wedding, but then backed out.  (Long story though).  Basically we got screwed, his mother finally realized it, and now we’re having a small, intimate wedding/reception in their backyard – everything being paid by them.

    Post # 4
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    He didn’t really ask, but he did give them a heads up the day before. Maybe that is considered asking for their blessing? My parents are divorced, so it’s a bit more complicated. Also, my mother and step-father have paid for the vast majority of our wedding, my father and step-mother have paid for a bit and Fiance and I have paid for a bit.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    yes, he asked both my parents, and both our parents are contributing some

    Post # 6
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    1725 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No, he didn’t ask anyone, and my parents are chipping in a certain amount and his parents are paying the rest

    Post # 9
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My mother offered a specific amount, and Fiance asked his parents if they would like to contribute and we asked them to pay for half of the projected food cost at the reception venue. On top of it, my mother has volunteered to pay for the shower and my FIL’s are also paying for a rehearsal dinner, welcome cocktail reception and a brunch and we didn’t ask for that…they also hosted our engagement party…

    Post # 9
    Member
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i know my parents woulda helped pay either way, and same with his

    Post # 10
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    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We did not ask for anything, but his parents gifted us a certain amount. We are free to use it on whatever we like though, wedding-related or not. We will probably put it mostly toward the wedding and use some for a honeymoon.

    Post # 11
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    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My Fiance asked for their blessing and yes my parents are paying for most of the wedding. They have always had some money sat aside for my wedding and I think I would have felt bad using it if my Fiance didn’t get their blessing. 

    Post # 14
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Fiance did not ask my parents… my parents dont own me! I have not lived under their roof for a good 6 years and this marriage is purely an agreement between Fiance and I.

    My parents were cool with it, they understand I am an adult and have the right to be married to whoever I damn well want and we dont need their permission to do so ;P

    Dad gave us $7K, his parents $2K and my mum $1K. Our budget is $18,000 so all up we got just over half the money required. We did not ask them for it, they did because they wanted to, but Fiance and I were prepared to pay for the whole thing ourselves so it was not expected (but it was greatly appreciated)

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