- 6 months ago
- Wedding: September 2019
Hi bees, this is not at all wedding related but I know and appreciate that this forum is filled with many different women with different life experiences, and there is no one in my circle who has been through this to talk to.
I’m seriously considering a breast reduction surgery, but have a couple of concerns. Has anyone here had this procedure done? I never thought I’d get cosmetic surgery, despite having a super flat chest as a teenager and wishing for bigger breasts. I was a late bloomer, and didn’t develop B cups until senior year of high school. Then they grew to C’s and I was very happy with them. A couple of years later I learned that my true size was then a D, and my formerly flat-chested self rejoiced haha. But over the past few years (I just turned 29), I’ve grown to a 34DDD in one breast, with the other larger and overspilling my cup often. My metabolism slowed down dramatically about when I turned 25, and so that weight gain has been a huge part of it. I’m not overweight, but the way I gained weight was not healthy (almost entirely in my breasts and stomach). To make matters worse, as I mentioned one breast is bigger, and thus the nipple is lower. It’s very noticeable if I ever try to go braless, and in general makes bras/clothes more difficult too. They aren’t full on saggy, but since I didn’t develop them as a teen, they aren’t exactly perky either. I’m worried they’ll sag early. I have no problem with aging gracefully, but would love to not start that part before I’m even 30. On top of all of that, they cause me back pain as I’m a small framed person. I’m about 120 now at 5’6″, but all the weight is carried in my front/midsection.
I don’t take the thought of surgery lightly. It would be a big expense for us that we’d have to save up for, and I have fear of anesthesia. I also would not just consider surgery as first resort for the other things in my appearance I’d like to change. But I don’t know what else would be an effective solution for this. Losing weight may help a bit with the size, but from what I understand wouldn’t improve their lift or lop-sidedness. It’s a real source of insecurity for me, even though I generally try to be positive about my appearance (and more often, don’t think much about it at all). My body being so different than it was just a few years ago has given me some body dysmorphia as well. I don’t feel like myself. I look different in clothes than I used to, and my face is fuller, but I can roll with all that because I get that things change, but my breasts just shoot down my self-esteem. My husband loves them and is always encouraging about how great I look, but I’m getting him to come around to the idea of getting surgery if I truly want to.
But as I said, it would be a significant cost for us, and I do worry about potential negative effects. So I’d love real women’s honest opinions- is it worth it? I understand that it’s not a fix all for every negative feeling, but I want to know, do you generally feel better and more confident in that area? Anything I should be aware of as I consider this?
Thank you in advance for your thoughts