(Closed) Considering Embryo Freezing

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Post # 33
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Helper bee

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samira86 :  It’s not just about getting pregnant, it’s about having the energy to raise the kids, too.  I used to babysit a lot and I can’t imagine having five kids in my late 30s.  People become so focused on the goal of getting pregnant that they forget about all the hard work that comes afterwards.  Sure, maybe if you freeze your eggs/embryos, you’ll be able to have biological children at 45, but would you want to? I imagine that one baby (or two maximum) would be more than challenging at that late age.

Anyway, good luck to you!

 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
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graces7 :  thank you! I didn’t meet my husband until later. I looked into egg freezing while we were dating (later than I should have admittedly) which turned into embryo freezing when we got engaged, with the hope that we could have one naturally and then have embryos for #2. Ultimately that whole process took a year with no results other than me knowing way more about my ovarian age than I wanted to (and having less money). Turns out my body (and possibly my eggs) are 38 but my ovaries are, like, 45 or something. So that’s an unexpected wrench in the plan. My RE told me to basically expect that I’d only be able to have one kid (if that). I’m arguably not even a candidate for IVF because IVF success depends on getting a lot of eggs (because each one has such a low chance of success) and I have so few left. 

I don’t know exact numbers but younger eggs is definitely the driving factor so doing it now is a good idea. But even with younger eggs I think it’s less than 30% success rate a pop? And that’s assuming everything else is optimal health. So you never know.  Good luck!

Post # 35
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Busy bee
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Post # 36
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Busy bee
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samira86 :  yup, that too. I’m just going to have to grit my teeth and power through. 

Post # 37
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honeysoft :  If you have a partner embryo freezing is generally recommended over egg freezing because it’s more successful – they’re better at preserving embryos so more survive the freezing process and you get more bites at the apple so to speak. The flip side is the moral issue of discarding embryos and the fact that if you split up with your partner down the road you have no eggs banked to use on your own or with anyone else. It can also cause legal problems (see: Sofia Vergara). 

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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samira86 :  my clinic actually had a giant stack of forms covering all possible scenarios to avoid a legal battle down the road. As a litigation paralegal I laughed to my husband “you think this stack of paper is big – just think about the lawsuit that led to them being created!” Before we could start treatment we had to decide what would happen to the embryos if (1) we divorced (2) I died (3) he died. Would one of us own them? Would they be donated to another couple? Destroyed? We opted in all scenarios to donate them to medical research (but not to be used to make a child). Our reasoning was that if we weren’t in a position to be able/willing to have sex to make the kid then we shouldn’t use science either. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
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LilliV :  we did the same thing. But so did Sofia Vergara. They had an agreement about what to do with their embryos but he wanted to break it and has kept her in court for a year and just dropped one suit only to start another. She may have a strong case but that doesn’t keep her from having to fight the fight (and pay the legal fees). 

Post # 40
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samira86 :  True. Hopefully she’ll be able to prove it’s a frivilous suit and win legal fees from her idiot ex. There have been cases where women go in and use their frozen embryos without telling the doctor that she is now divorced and then suing the ex-husband for child support – all the ones I’ve heard about lost though which I think is good. All I can think about in these types of cases is Legally Blonde lol

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I am 34 and will just be 35 when I get married.  My career is just taking off. It is quite conceivably the worst time to start a family, but that being said we are going to give it a go, the natural way. Fiance and I would love 3 kids, but realize that is likely not going to happen. I admire your ambition, I just think it is really hard to manage two big careers and a big family… Just my thoughts. Hope it all works out for you! 

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