(Closed) Considering forgoing the “party” wedding and going to the courthouse instead…

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ours isn’t a courthouse wedding but we did downsize our wedding drastically back in August.  We originally were having a wedding with 80 guests and the whole deal with a DJ and everything.  Now we’re having 24 people (including us) for a small ceremony in a park and then having a dinner reception in a restaurant.  We cut our budget in half.  I can let you know next week how it goes since it’s Sunday but it was so much less stressful and less expensive to plan. We also strongly considered eloping just the two of us then having maybe a barbecue at home but our parents really wanted at least a little something. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I had a courthouse wedding. My wedding was turning into a circus and everyone was having an opinion about it. In the end we couldn’t afford and were not willing to go into debt for what would essentially be a huge party. And no one was helping financially.

So we went and got married at the courthouse with only our friends witnessing. It bothers our family, but for us it was right. Everyone was being unsupportive and I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. I don’t need a big party and a $3,000 dress to be with my husband, I just wanted to get married.

I felt a huge sense of relief after it was over and we could just start our lives.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Sorry, double post.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would have loved to elope or have a courthouse wedding, but my husband wanted the “big wedding” so we compromised and had a small wedding. I say go for it, as long as the wedding isn’t that important to you.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

have you thought destination wedding? sounds like its right up your alley – you can invite who you want but no one is expected to come and they pay their own way. i sometimes wish i would have gone this route – i was super jealous when i was on my honeymoon and watched a few different brides marry on the beach and then stroll the resort afterward.

Post # 8
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1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i have a second chance at planning my wedding and many of the things i thought were important (dress, 200 people, dessert bar) just don’t seem important anymore. 

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I LOVE THIS POST! I am in the same situation. This economy is horrid and I just cant allow myself to let my parents pay some 20k, that they dont have, for 6hrs. The important thing is that I marry the man I love and that I spend that special day with the family and friends that are truely important to me.  Why can’t this be at a courthouse or backyard? It is what makes sense to me right now.

 I do, find myself getting extremely emotional at times when i think about my dad not being able to walk me down the aisle at a courthouse and missing the first dance as a couple and the father/daughter dance but i think it will all be ok. I am just sooo happy that I am not the only one thinking these things and going through this. Thank you sooo much to all of you posting!!!! Please keep me posted on your weddings!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We’re having a very small wedding.  We found a bed and breakfast that has wedding packages and we’re limited to a small number of guests.  It’s great because it’s less vendors to find and less to plan, plus it forces us to keep numbers down.  You could look around your area to see if there are B&B’s or other places that have things like this.  It could give your fiance the non-courthouse wedding yet give you both some of the ease of a small, destination wedding.  Our place with the package is actually more affordable than if we were doing it all on our own.

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