(Closed) Considering job offer-help!

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 2
8898 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2017 -  California

Please, please, PLEASE do not make career decisions that can impact the rest of your life based on hypothetical hurt co-workers’ feelings.

It doesn’t matter what they think. This was an opportunity given to you by people with the power to make such decisions. That they chose you over Co-Worker X and Co-Worker Y isn’t your “fault” and isn’t something to feel bad about. 

Plus, if these co-workers have a good relationship with you, they should be happy for you. If they’re butthurt and rude about it, well too bad, they’re not worth worrying about then anyway.

Post # 3
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

are you crazy — take it!!!!

one of these coworkers who you are so loyal to would do the same to you in a minute if they got the chance. I don’t want to sound cold but you have a responsibility to you, your family, your FI/DH not a co-worker. You made the steps to get more education and obviously must have shown your superiors that you are a great worker – they all could have done the same.

Post # 4
46981 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

WifeyGtoBe:  How would this job extend the repayment of student loans? Does it pay less?

If the benefits are better than you have now, would that not free up money to go towards your student loans?

Ditto the pp’s- other people’s feelings are not your problem.Be polite and gracious to them, but move head with your own career.

Post # 5
27 posts

Don’t wory about them- worry about yourself.  It seems like something great just fell into your lap. Congratulations! 

Post # 6
4821 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

TAKE IT!!  Congratulations, darling!

Post # 7
7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

None of your co-workers would turn down the offer just to avoid upsetting you. It’s business. Take the offer. Prepay your loans along the way.

Post # 9
46981 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

WifeyGtoBe:  Is the new position a Monday to Friday 9-5 type job?

You may not be able to work extra 12 hr shifts, but sometimes if they are short, could you offer to pick up an 8 hr shift on your days off?

Post # 11
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

WifeyGtoBe:  Good grief. Do not worry about the co-workers and how they will feel! An attitude like this could seriously hold you back in your career. I suspect it is more prevalent in females, this worry about people liking you versus getting ahead in your career.

I did work in a place once where they hired a lot of 30-hour a week (non-benefit) people to work alongside and do the same job as full-time, benefited employees. Very rarely, one of us part-timers would be promoted to full time, and yes, there were some feelings of why that person vs me? So I understand the social dynamic. I saw jealousy, but I didn’t buy into it. I told myself that it was the company that was treating everyone unfairly by having the “part-timers” and our anger should be at the company, not jealousy toward a co-worker who got hired full time.

Jump at this chance. If someday, in this job or another, you are offerred the opportunity to be a manager or supervisor, take the plunge and do not sit around thinking: Now my friends won’t like me because I will be their boss.

Are you going to turn down every promotion because it will make someone else unhappy?



Post # 12
9641 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

You can’t take resoponsibility for other people’s feelings!  This sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you–go for it!

Post # 13
2890 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe your co-workers do not have the management skills the company knew you had. The position is pretty much customized to match your education and skills – take it !

When I was offered my current job, my manager hired me without going through the whole HR process, which is against their usual policy. She wanted to offer me a full-time position right away, but her boss warned her it might upset other coworkers who have been working there for years. She didn’t want me to appear as a ”threat” to them, but she wanted to hire me and no-one else. I want the job enough that I am ready to compromise on the hours the first few months so I can slowly make my way into the team, working directly for the manager, while completing a degree that’s related to the job. Short-term, it did disappoint me a bit. Long-term : I believe it’s a very good strategic move and my gut is telling me it’s worth changing my paper plans for a while just so I can garantee myself even greater opportunities ahead. 

Take the job, it sounds like the only thing that keeps you from it are your own insecurities related to your coworker’s reactions and the fact you will need to adjust your budget, but you can still  take a part-time job later. 

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