Post # 1
Two years ago my partner gave me a custom-made “promise ring” of sorts. It’s so beautiful, two celtic interlocking hearts, with our birthday gem stones on either side. I haven’t taken it off since then.
This past summer when she proposed, she asked me with a lovely necklace (which was fine because we are both broke students, and I had been hinting that I didn’t want her to wait until she could afford a nice e-ring to ask me!)
Now, we are planning our wedding, and even on a tight budget, things are adding up. I’m almost at the point to say forget the ring, let’s just get $100 plain bands for the ceremony, and maybe by our 5th anniversary we can get nicer ones.
My Dad suggested this a month ago when we were discussing costs, and I scoffed at the idea. Now it doesn’t seem so crazy. Not that I want a big princess-cut diamond, far from it!, but I don’t want something that looks cheap either.
suggestions? opinions? advice?
Post # 3
@mtnhoney: I think simple bands are classy and chic. Its fine, do what you can afford.
Post # 4
That’s what we did. I brought both of our bands off of Amazon. Spent less than $200 and I don’t regret it. I’ve never been a diamond gal so I didn’t want him to waste “our” money.
Post # 5
I’m all for it. I got my expensive ring, but there are days I wonder why I *neeeeeded* it. You could always get a gold band that you can always wear and not have to replace and then get an e-ring of sorts later on.
Post # 6
I think it’s a great idea! Simple band will be so elegant. Then you can spend more on the wedding!
Post # 7
My sister asked me to help her find a fake set for now that looked nice and was under $50. I found her CZ sets on Ebay and Overstock that were amazing! I had even found matching bands for them on there!
Post # 8
My husband & I got sterling silver temp rings for the same reasons. After the wedding we got our forever rings.
My forever wedding band only costed 189 dollars (before tax) $203 total. It was on sale & is now priced at $229. It is white gold, a half eternity band with .25 tcw of diamonds. I got it off walmart.com & I don’t think it looks cheap at all.
Post # 9
awww… thanks bees!! I’m still amazed at how quickly the responses will come in on this site after I post something. It’s so great.
I may be “jumping the gun” with this, since we haven’t even gone out shopping (we’ll have time over the holidays), and our wedding isn’t until next summer so we have lots of time!!
In a way I would rather spend money on a “forever ring” since I’ll be wearing it every day for (hopefully) the rest of my life, whereas a wedding is just one day.
but thanks for the encouragement and support!!!
Post # 10
Most wedding rings are not nearly as expensive as engagement rings because they tend not to have the large stones that engagement rings do. And, a quality ring is a different measure than an expensive ring.
For me the wedding rings are very important. They will be part of your ceremony, and if it’s a religious ceremony, can be blessed. They are a symbol of the love. Not a symbol of love that can be replaced when something better comes along.
My engagement ring is also important to me. I chose a less expensive ring than my my fiancee was willing to get because I want to be able to wear it every day, not just on days when I didn’t go to places that would make me feel conspicious.
Post # 11
I think it’s a great idea. I have no idea why I worried about an e-ring at the beginning of our engagement – it’s the wedding band that I wear every day and that means the most to me. Also I love the plain band idea – that’s what we have and they’re so comfortable and classy 🙂
Alsooooo, if you skip the e-ring and get just a plain band, they’re so versatile you can wear any ring with it. So you never have to commit to just one e-ring, you can switch it up between gems and moissanites and whatever else you fancy over the years(guilt free since your partner won’t be sad you’re not wearing the e-ring!)
Post # 12
For traveling and working out I just purchased a titanium band on amazon for $15.30. It is super shiny and comfortable. I don’t think it looks cheap at all. Even though we aren’t married yet, I really want to get Fiance one too, since it’s super comfy, nice looking, lightweight and inexpensive, and since she doesn’t like rings and has never been a ring wearer.
Post # 13
Our bands were $25 each. Someday I may have a more expensive ring, but I’d rather build a house and have some babies to fill it.
Post # 14
My partner and I are in the same boat. We opted to buy silver rings from Helzberg. My ring is 1/8 carats of diamonds, but is enough to sparkle and we’ll upgrade to diamond bands for our fifth legal wedding anniversary. I should also mention that I wanted a pink stone and my birthstone is garnet, so it was perfect.
Post # 15
2 women I work with never had engagement rings. They rather spend the money on a more extravagant honey moon!
Post # 16
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: Your band is such a great example for this thread. I never would have guessed that’s all you paid for it. I love seeing pictures of it!