Post # 1
I have been freaking out about every single detail of my wedding since I started planning. I bought a dress then decided I hated it. I picked a venue then switched to another one then switched back to my first choice. Before we got engaged all I really wanted was a nice, small ceremony and reception in Northern Michigan with family and a few friends. Now I’ve got a reception hall booked that seats 240 people and a church that seats 500 people and I can’t even scrounge up 80 damn guests to invite, and I just CAN’T stop thinking about it and focusing on the fact that I’ve planned this stupid reception that I don’t even WANT that nobody is going to come to. What the hell am I supposed to do now? I don’t even want to continue planning this wedding because I’m so focused on the tiny guest list and how absolutely pathetic it’s going to be.
okay end rant. I feel like a whiny little brat.
Post # 3
i understand. i opened your thread because i also have constant anxiety about my wedding. and i only have 17 guests! the anxiety and the nightmares are becoming more frequent and distressing the closer i get.
regarding your dress, do you have time to get a new one? i bought a dress and then regretted it big time. sold it and bought one i LOVE. its one of my favorite things about the wedding now.
but for so long i have just had this terrible, nagging feeling that its just not going to be good. then i will have good days when major decisions are made and i feel excited. but more often than that, its that nagging sense of dread i can’t shake. so let me just say you are not alone. i am hoping to write back in 3 weeks and say it all worked out fantastically and i was worried over nothing!
Post # 4
@dynamic_duo: I bought a second one a couple months ago and I love it! Which reminds me, I need to pick it up from the cleaners..
It is good to know that someone else is experiencing the same thing. I feel less crazy if there’s someone else out there who is experiencing the same nagging feelings. If only we could be confident about our plans, it would make the whole planning experience so much more enjoyable!!!!
Post # 5
@Meealissa: i know! i do have some enjoyable days though, so i hope they come for you too! but i wish the nightmares would stop. the latest is that i was late for my ceremony because i couldn’t do up my dress properly, and then half the people (from my 17!) left! and then even my brideamaids could not be bothered to stick around for pictures on the beach – which i am SO looking forward to!!!
another one was (and i think it stems from the fact that i still have not chosen a hairstyle), i got my hair done and it was just hideous and it put me in a bad mood for the rest of the day as i was so mad at myself for not just bringing a freakin picture of what i wanted. when i woke up, the feeling just stayed with me – its too late to do anything about my hair! (of course now i realize its not)
Post # 6
Same here! I always worry about everything, whetherr I’m doing it right, etc, and planning something with this many pieces is a big ball of stress. I just want my family to be there, but I have enough of them that it’s not going to be a tiny event.