Post # 1
I’ve recently noticed that a lot of people keep asking me “Are you done with wedding planning yet?” . This is really odd and makes me pretty annoyed. To answer the obvious questions, here are some facts:
- FI and I have been engaged for 14 months and when we get married, it will be 19 months (which is a long time, I get it!!!).
- I do not post on social media about wedding stuff very often. Maybe I will post a picture on Instagram once a month.
- I do not bring up the wedding in conversation because I know not everyone is as interested in it as I am.
So what would you say when people ask you this question? I typically just say “Not quite yet” or something very brisk as I don’t want to start a long conversation about all the stuff we still have to do because I honestly don’t think people really care! Any advice out there?
Post # 2
julesbeeb: To me it appears that people are just asking you because it’s a topic of conversation, not that they are really concerned with where you are. Sounds like they are just trying to make relatable small talk.
I’m in the same boat in that I’ll be engaged for 19 months come wedding time. Hang in there!!
Post # 3
Yeah, people are probably just trying to make conversation and that’s an easy topic to ask about. The whole time I was planning I was asked how planning was going by every single person I talked to. Even the same people that I didn’t see everyday…every time I saw them, they asked about the wedding. It gets really annoying but you just have to smile and deal with it.
Post # 4
julesbeeb: I get the same question a few times a week…it only add stress. I’ve been talking to other brides and we’ve noticed that most of our excess stress come from the wedding party. So annoying
Post # 5
Thanks ladies. I agree, it’s probably just small talk but it makes me feel so weird!!!
Post # 6
julesbeeb: I’m in the same boat as you are. Long engagement, never post on FB about it, also don’t bring it up much to most people except my mom and bridesmaids because I feel like they don’t care. When I am asked “you must be all done with planning, right?” I feel the anxiety creeping up in my head because we still have a lot of stuff to do. I know they are probably trying to show interest/make conversation, but it stresses me out.
What gets me is the people who don’t even know me that ask a million questions. I had a teeth cleaning yesterday, and the hygienist (who I had never met) saw my engagement ring, and proceeded to ask tons of questions about the colors, dress, food, location, where FI and I met and how long we’ve been together, etc. Stuff that is not a secret, but I was thinking, “Why do you care?” lol.
Post # 7
dms0622: totally! My dentist look vets talking about it, I think she does so she can tell stories from hers! It’s just an easy conversation piece I guess.
Post # 8
Done yet? Dude! I wasn’t “done planning” till the day of the wedding!!! HAHA! Actually, no, planning was pretty early, but executing all the DIY things was going on even until the night before! LOL!
The best thing to do is ignore these comments and just smile.
Hang in there!
Post # 9
julesbeeb: my stock answer to that question (which I get a lot now that we’re less than 8 weeks out) is ‘It’s coming together’
Post # 10
julesbeeb: i gotta say…i am about 5 1/2 weeks out and i am OVER talking to people about where i am with everything…lol.