(Closed) CONTINUATION OF HEAD TABLE SITUATION

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it looks fine, but please excuse my nosy question, why would the Officiant have to be there to stop a problem?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Are you tied to the idea of a head table? What if the head table was a round table? That way, it may be more conducive to seating, since there is no “end” of the table.

To avoid this problem (bridal party with spouses, girlfriends), we are having them all sit with their guests, and we are sitting alone at a sweetheart table. It feels like we are going to be around people all day, and I just want to sit with my husband during dinner. And I don’t want people to stare at me when I’m eating.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Are you tied to the idea of a head table? What if the head table was a round table? That way, it may be more conducive to seating, since there is no “end” of the table.

To avoid this problem (bridal party with spouses, girlfriends), we are having them all sit with their guests, and we are sitting alone at a sweetheart table. It feels like we are going to be around people all day, and I just want to sit with my husband during dinner. And I don’t want people to stare at me when I’m eating.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

You know, I’m not a big fan of the whole “It’s the bride’s day; she should do whatever she wants” philosophy; but I do rather think your guests have a few too many opinions of their own.

You might want to try som social ju-jitsu (that’s the martial art where you use your opponent’s strenth against him.) You side-step at the last minute, and let the person wh’s rushing at you run past unbalanced by not hitting the target. Since you don’t care about the fluff anyway, you can afford to “sidestep”.

What would happen if, the next time someone complained about seating arrangements, you handed them a blank seating chart and the blank place cards, smiled sweetly, and said “I’ll go with whatever you guys agree with. You’ll need to make sure the place cards are arranged on the table by d p.m. on the day of the wedding.” Or if they complain about the corsages, say “here’s the florist who’s doing my bouquet, but feel free to use a different one if you want. I’m happy for whoever you decide to get corsages for to get them, but I can’t go over my budget of $140.” And so on.

Etiquette exists so that people know their boundaries and don’t need to get their toes stepped on. Etiquette says guests are supposed to sit where they’re invited to sit and be polite and charming to their host. Once they start deciding to forego good manners and insist on privileges because “we’re family”, you get to lean on them as family and not worry so much about their feelings. Take care of yourself, and don’t care too much about the planning details.

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Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@LisaR: Hey Lisa – I totally get it. It’s really hard to satisfy family members when they have their own feelings about different topics. I feel for you! Hopefully, you’ll be able to come to a consensus and most people will be happy 🙂

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