(Closed) Continue to TTC or put it on hold?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What would you do in my situation if a "March" pregnancy doesn't happen?
    Keep TTC - it's worth the risk of morning sickness or miscarriage on the trip. : (41 votes)
    72 %
    Put TTC on hold until after the trip. : (12 votes)
    21 %
    Don't even try next cycle, you don't want to be 3.5 months along on the trip. : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Other (explain below) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @E_Lynne615: I am completely torn! So essentially my reply will be useless to you… 

    On the one hand, I agree with PPs who have said that miscarriages will happen irrespective of where you are, what you’re doing, etc. (to an extent, of course). From what I understand, a baby that’s stick will stick, and one that’s not won’t.

    I don’t know what your experience of leading trips is, so I don’t want to be teaching my grandmother to suck eggs here (or whatever the phrase is, lol, I’m sure I’ve misused it!), but I once led a trip of student abroad and it was hands down the most stressful week of my life. Nothing really went wrong, but like you I am a mega-planner and just exhausted myself anticipating every little thing that might or might not happen. Doing that whilst feeling crappy from any kind of first-trimester symptoms sounds horrendous. But then, on the other hand, you might have no symptoms! Or you could keep trying and still not be pregnant by then…

    I’m sure whatever you decide will be right for you and your Darling Husband 🙂

    Post # 18
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    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I might put it off just to better enjoy your trip. I wasn’t even very sick during the first trimester, but I had 3 trips and it was honestly VERY hard. The first one I was sick to my stomach and dizzy and it made walking around really hard (smells + heat). I spent a lot of time in my room. The second one was fine actually but it was just to see a friend so I napped a lot. The third one was sightseeing in DC at 12 weeks and I got so sick I had to leave my friends to go back to the hotel room. Being on my feet/walking around was just so hard when I was SOOOOOO exhausted and nausceous and then being dizzy just made it worse. 🙁 

    Post # 20
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I voted to keep ttcing, because after all, life holds no guarantees.  You might not get pregnant.  You might and miscarry (hopefully not!) prior to your trip.  You might never have morning sickness (or other ailments) or you may be sick the entire pregnancy.  My first tri was fairly easy on me.  I don’t know if that’s because I was ready to enjoy whatever came my way since it’s been 3.5 years and 6 miscarriages, or if it truly wasn’t that difficult.  We did go on a trip right at the end of my first tri and while I very much enjoyed it, I wouldn’t have been able to do trips daily.  THAT might be because I was under orders to take it easy (I’m very high risk), but more likely it was because I was just exhausted a lot.  That said, I did hike something like 10 miles through Bryce, Zion, Kodachrome, and Valley of Fire.  

    So definitely some things to think about.  Here’s some other things though:  Like I said, I had 6 very early miscarriages prior to this pregnancy (all ended before 5 weeks).  I never once expected them.  I was doing everything right.  Everything my drs told me to do, I did.  Yet I still lost them.  It wasn’t trips or stress that caused them, it was a stupid quirk of life that landed me with a lot of problems in the reproductive areas that caused them.  With miscarriages too, you never know how they will happen and how they will affect you.  My first miscarriage took 3 months to happen.  I had lots of spotting with days here and there of bleeding and some clotting, but no pain, no OMG OMG OMG I’M GOING TO DIE FROM BLOOD LOSS moments.  My 2nd miscarriage was just about the exact opposite.  I started miscarrying prior to boarding a plane for a trip.  Luckily it was a short flight and I’d brought pads just in case, and it was hard for me mentally (those poor flight attendents, I don’t think they really knew what to do with me other than hand me lots of kleenex), but physically the pain didn’t start until shortly after I’d landed.  (I continued on my trip because it was a family reunion and my mom was already there and by damn, I needed my mom)  I spent the next couple of days alternately curled up on the bed, a couch/chair, or the bathroom crying and in pain, and going out and trying to socialize/sightsee for as much as my body would let me get away with.  I had labor like pains with that one.  The rest of my miscarriages all handled like a belated period with little to no pain, and most of the time even less bleeding than a normal period.  

    Confusing right?  Unfortunately there are no guarantees.  I’ve put so much on hold because of “what if I get pregnant?” “can we afford this along with fixing me?” etc.  I don’t regret too much, but my advice would be to follow your heart and not put things off on a ‘chance’ that may or may not happen. 

     

    Post # 21
    Member
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @E_Lynne615:  Definitely keep trying!!

    Post # 22
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @E_Lynne615:  I would continue to try. Nothing is a guarantee and if you have been trying for a while you know that time is precious when it comes to TTC. I wouldn’t want to waste a month or two.

    My first trimester was pretty easy compared to some ladies so you might be the same. You never know how easy or dificult your pregnancy will be! Yes I had nausea but nothing that was so debilitating that Europe would be out the question.

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