(Closed) Contributions to honeymoon fund

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

lol this thread is such a rookie-mistake…

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I know there are mixed feelings towards honeymoon funds because it may seem like you are directly asking for money. Regardless, when is your wedding? People probably aren’t even looking at your registries yet. Unless I was looking for a bridal shower gift (in which case I would want to purchase a physical gift), I wouldn’t be worrying about giving a gift too far before the wedding. I always just give cash or a check in a card on the day of. If your wedding date is close to the honeymoon deadline, you might get more contributions closer to the day as people may start looking into where you’re registered then. Since you can afford your honeymoon, just pay it off when it’s due. You’ll likely get money in cards on the day of, or whatever your guests want to gift you, instead.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

goldenglow90:  Ok I’ll give you my advice – you don’t ask people to pay for your honeymoon. Ever. And especially by a particular date before your wedding…that’s so far above and beyond “in bad taste”. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

You can’t ask people to give you gifts before your wedding. You can’t ask for anything. That’s incredibly rude and I don’t understand why you think it’s okay.

Pay for your honeymoon yourself now. If you get money as a wedding present then pay yourself back with it. Otherwise it’s rude and presumptuous.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I don’t know if there is a particular etiquette for giving wedding gifts before attending the wedding.

Personally I would find it really rude if the bride and groom asked for money because they needed to pay off their honeymoon by a certain date. I honestly don’t even know how you could word it to make it sound polite, sorry! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

We did a honeymoon fund which was “fun stuff we’d like to do while we’re there” – helicopter tours, meals out to specific nice restaurants etc. We still would have gone on our honeymoon without the extra money, but we wanted guests to feel like they were buying us a specific “experience”.

Some people still gave cash on the day, but no one thought about the wedding gift until like a week before the wedding to be honest, that’s when the gifts started coming in. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I generally give cash as a wedding gift, and never has it occurred to me to send it before the wedding.  It goes in a card which I take with me to the wedding…I don’t think you’ll have any luck with contributions before the wedding.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If money isn’t an issue then why the angst over guests not contributing before your final payment date.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Ehh no and for the love of all things do not hound your guests for money before the wedding. Or to be honest even mention gifts at all. You invite people to your wedding to enjoy the day not for the gifts they bring and it sounds like your quite concerned with how much money you are going to make out of these people! I’ve never sent a gift before a wedding and it wouldn’t even occur to me to do that especially not money it would go in a card and come with me. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

goldenglow90:  it’s not that you are asking for money, it’s that you are asking for it BEFORE any of these people attend your wedding.

Seriously, how are you going to ask them to send you money by a certain date? It’s incredibly rude. Most of your guests will bring their gift to your wedding and you have absolutely no right to ask otherwise.

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