(Closed) Contributions to honeymoon fund

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Would you ever call your friends and family and ask them to give you money so you can go on vacation? FYI the answer should be NO!

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This thread is all kinds of cringe.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Your honeymoon fund is linked directly to your travel agent?? So I’m guessing you DO need your guests to pay for (er… I mean “gift you”) your honeymoon before the deadline. Because if you pay for your honeymoon on your own and guests contribute to the honeymoon fund after the deadline, I don’t see how that would work. Unless your travel agent refunds you what they receive from the honeymoon fund?

Sounds sketchy to me.

Either way, you can’t back pedal now on your ‘intentions’ with this post. We all read the OP.

Post # 64
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sure you’ve gotten lots of advice at this point, so I’ll share my personal opinion. I hate honeymoon funds.  Don’t ask me to pay for your honeymoon.  I almost always give money at a wedding, unless there’s a honeymoon fund as the only gift option.  If you do that, I’ll be getting you an expensive bottle of wine and a gift certificate to a nice restaurant where you live.

Post # 65
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Blushing bee

I’ve never seen anything etiquette related when it comes to this, I think it’s more of a personal/case by case basis. I would think it’s safer to pay for it yourselves and reimburse with the money you are sent or given if you want. I can’t imagine there is a way to mention it without being a little tacky. 

Post # 66
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Honey bee

chamcham:  That’s funny, because I would much rather pay for a couple to have dinner or do an excursion on their honeymoon than give them a cheque or cash. I think it just depends on how people “view” wedding gifts and gift giving in general. 

Post # 67
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107 posts
Blushing bee

ClaudiaKishi:  ya I guess the money is to help them get their life started together but on my brothers wedding it totally went to paying toward paying off the costs of having an actual wedding. Not sure why the cheque is a standard thing to do around here. 

Post # 68
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

There are actually registries that people can contribute to your honeymoon, giving you spending money, paying for meals, paying for trips and things for you to do. Look into honeyfund. That is one of the bigger ones.

Post # 69
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Asking your wedding guests for money is incredibly rude that is why you cannot find any etiquette info on it…. 

Post # 70
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Actually asking ANYONE for money is incredibly rude. 

Post # 71
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

If you insist on doing it, make sure you actually do the things people purchase for you. I know how these sites work (cash into your bank account or paypal account) and so does 95% of your guests. Ask for experiences over material possessions… If someone contributes and purchases an experience, you could send a thank you card with a picture of the two of you injoying the activity and personal thank you for helping them exerience it.  Just a thought to make it more personal…

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