(Closed) Control your kids!!!!!!!!! (my first fitting nightmare)

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
Hostess
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry, that’s terrible. However, I think you should have spoken up either to the parents or the children. You don’t have to be rude, but if you said something to the point like “You know, this is a really special dress for one of the most important days of my life that you just stepped on. It really hurts my feelings but I know you won’t do it again.”

It is not ok for children to misbehave (different from just being children) like that in public. But 99% of the time a “Strange” Adult reprimands a kid, it does sink in super fast.

Post # 18
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would have been absolutely furious, even before they stepped on the dress. I’m so sorry you had this experience,  but why couldn’t the seamstress or someone else working in the shop say anything? I get why you wouldn’t have wanted to, but if the behavior was effecting the rest of their customers they should have stepped up and let the parents’ know that type of behavior wouldn’t be accepted there.

Post # 19
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61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh hell no!!!! The bridal shop DEFINITELY should have said something to the parents!!! 

Post # 20
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10846 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Omg I wish I had been with you so they could have experienced my fury!!!!!! That’s inexcusable that the staff of the shop didn’t kick them out!!!!! Can you rebook your appointment to go back and try on your dress again in the peace and quiet?

Post # 21
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24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh that’s awful! I’m terrible at confrontation so I would have just cried. My FH is much better in those situations so he would have had them out in a flash… except obviously the groom can’t be there so it would just be awful! 

I’m usually a “family friendly” kind of person but I just think it’s not the place for children. Lots of people think children make everything more magical and we are going to have all our friends children at our wedding but why oh why would you have children in a bridal shop? Not only is it not appropriate but most of all any parent would know that children are just going to get bored – it’s not fun for them and they don’t really care about that sort of thing. 

One thing to remember is it’s never the child’s fault when they behave badly in places like that – the parents should either not have brought them or should have taught their children to be more disciplined in the first place or at least removed them once they started playing up. I’d be mortified if my future childrene ever behaved like that! I can’t bear it when parents just leave their children alone when they are misbehaving!

I hope everything works out with your dress and I’m sorry it didn’t go as you wanted. Just look forward to your magical day now and hopefully that will take your mind off it….. x 

Post # 22
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would have gone bridezilla on the parents and the kids! I love kids but I do not have any patience or any tolerance for parents who do not control their children in public and ignore the fact that they have children there acting inappropriately. I am a quite shy person and hate confrontation but I would have lost it on them and on the alterations lady! There is no excuse for them to allow that to go on in their store..IMO I would have been on the verge of tears too!! I might have even tried to make the parents pay for the dress to be cleaned. Try and teach them a lesson and their kids. I can’t stand ignorant people.

Post # 23
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1557 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry this happened to you 🙁 In my head, I feel like if it had been me, I would have said something, but then again I’m also bad at confrontation in person. 

I’m usually one to just let things go, but with a wedding dress, you had every right to turn around and say “Excuse me, but one of your children just stepped on my dress, and if it happens again and gets damaged, I’m sending you a bill.” 

Who cares if they give you dirty looks or get upset with you? It’s not like they’re going to do anything to you, because if they tried, they would get kicked out. 

Post # 24
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749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh, I would have lost it. There is no excuse for parents not controlling their kids. When I was little, I was well behaved in public because that was what was expected of me. You had better believe that I would have said something to the parents, kids, management, everyone. Your dress could have been stained, ripped, or otherwise damaged by these children. That is not acceptable.

Post # 25
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow. I would have spoken to the manager/shop owner. It is up to them to maintain a certain environment in their store. They should have asked the extra people and kids to behave, control their kids or step outside. Period.

Post # 26
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I used to work in a very high-class store that had 3 stories and a Koi pond in the middle of it.  I can’t even tell you the amount of times I would have to pull children aside to ask them to stop running up and down the stairs or get down off the the ledge of the pond…Simply because their parents had let them run freely as they shopped. The majority of the time, one of the children would fall into the pond and cry to their parents about being wet.  I always made sure to say, “I warned you not to play on the pond.  You probably won’t do that again, huh?” before they left.  Ha.

I’m really sorry your first fitting experience was awful.  If I had been in your situation, I would have assumed the shop owner would have asked the parents to control their kids.  Seeing as how that didn’t happen, I’m glad you got a discount…I hope it was a big one!

Post # 27
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3253 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love kids and plan on having a few of my own someday, but there are way too many parents out there these days who seem to think that they carry no responsibility in keeping them under control!

I used to be a manager at a retail store, and I feel like I spent way too much time having to awkwardly confront parents about the fact that their kids were messing with the cash registers, throwing merchandise on the floor, etc. It was just insane, and it made me even madder when these crazy parents would allow their children to monkey around and then complain when they got hurt. I mean, really?!! 

If you’re going to have kids, you need to take care of them and respect that not everyone wants to have your kids be a part of whatever retail experience they are having. Period.

Post # 28
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10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would have completely lost my shit! I don’t have any patience for large groups of children as it is but if they were running all over my dress and the adults didn’t do anything about it, you can bet there would be some choice NC-17 words coming out of my mouth. Completely unacceptable.

Post # 29
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6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh man if I were there I would have gone Bridezella on their butts so fast!!! ARGH- I think you should call the store and let them know that while you appreciate their discount, they should have removed those children or said something to their parents.

Just unacceptable!!

Post # 30
Member
1058 posts
Bumble bee

OMG I would have FREAKED out! On my second dress fitting there was a lady with two kids in the bridal salon and they had the curtains (not the doors) to change in. As I was changing these kids kept peeping through the curtain, while I was UNDRESSING! WTF???? I walked out half nude and I was like LADY You need to control your kids they are practically IN MY DRESSING ROOM!

After saying something. She told them to stop but did that stop them??? NOPE you can tell this mother had no control over her kids. She would say stop but when they would keep doing it she never stopped them! That just pissed me off!

Post # 31
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2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@disneybride11: What a circus! I’m so sorry that happened. There is nothing “bridezilla” about saying something to these parents to set them straight. YOU are not being rude – THEY are! I would’ve said something to the parents, even if it was as mild as, “Hey, would you please keep your beautiful, well-behaved children off my dress?” Or, better, I would’ve gone to the management and had them handle it. I hope your dress will be cleaned and steamed beautifully for you and hasn’t incurred any further damage. If the alterations gal has a business separate from the shoppe, the shoppe should reimburse her the discount she is giving you — she shouldn’t have to take the hit for the poor management of the shoppe.

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