Post # 1
Hi hive! i just wanted to give everybody a little bit of background information first. my fi and i are limiting costs of our open bar by setting a cash limit. our recpetion is catered by a restaurant. the location is a little unique because it is in the atrium of a business center (in which the actual restaurant is located). now this restaurant maximizes profits by holding both a wedding inside as well as out in the atrium simultaneosly. any guest that attends the indoor wedding reception will have to walk past our reception.
we’ve had friends hold their weddings at the same location in the past and they told us that guests from the other wedding would shamelessly line up for their open bar! even when approached by our friends (not the bride/groom) they would ignore them and continue to order at the bar!
we’re trying to come up with a solution for this (as i’m sure it will happen at our wedding as well). We don’t want to have to resort to drink tickets or wrist bands because we feel it’s too much of a hassle for our guests. does anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 3
whoa…that sucks! So rude!
last year a friend of ours had a ritzy wedding at the del coronado near san diego. Their cocktail hour took place on the lawn and all these random people (obviously not guests of the wedding since they were in khaki shorts for the black tie required event) crashed for drinks and appetizers. And then wouldnt leave when the wait staff stopped them! They had to be strong armed out!
I know you dont want to do wrist bands (I hate tickets). What does the restaurant suggest? Can you hire a security guard (just one shouldnt be more than $250-$300) for the night and stand him at the door to look imposing? What if the wrist bands were really cute and did double duty as favors for the guests? Like those Live Strong wristbands everyone wears…
Post # 4
Could you provide a small corsage or boutonniere for each of your guests to pin on as they come in the door? It could be something very simple like a small (inexpensive) flower and a pearl head pin. You could then ask the bar tenders to only serve to the people wearing "your" reception’s flowers.
Post # 5
What does the restaurant have to say about this? Do they even care? I would think they would work with you on this since it would be a big down-side to anyone wanting to use them as a venue.
I think the corsage pin is a good idea- you could also just do a little ribbon- tied in a bow, in a color that matches your decor. You could use those tiny little safety pins and guests could just pin them on.
Post # 6
what about a cute button too- guests could wear on their lapel or dress. or a customized wrist stamp? (kind of too "clubbish"??) I also like FUTUREMRSMORGANS idea for a customized live strong sort of bracelet too!
Post # 7
I am with Rosy – if having 2 weddings at the same time is to the benefit of the restaurant, it should assist you in solving this issue. I would raise your concerns with the restaurant, first!
Post # 8
hi all! thanks for the suggestions. when we voiced our concern to the wedding coordinator she said that the bartenders are pretty good about recognizing who belongs and who doesn’t (which is obviously not the case!). one thing we thought about was moving the bar all the way to the other side of the room so it’s further away from the other wedding. the first thing that came to mind for us was the wristband but like beesknees said… we thought it was too clubbish too. the corsage/ boutonniere sounds like a cute idea!
Post # 9
I really don’t think I would worry about it. I am sure you have enough other things to worry about for the wedding. I mean…worst case scenario, you spend $100+ (hopefully less? hopefully not more…) on drinks for wedding crashers. If it were me…I would let it go and hope for the best. You probably can’t totally control this situation regardless of the solution you come up with so why stress about it? So…my solution would be no solution. Helpful, huh? 🙂
Post # 10
What about something even simplier: cut strips of ribbon for the guests to tie on their wrists? Cheap and pretty (but not so pretty that guys would feel weird)