(Closed) controlling the open bar

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

whoa…that sucks! So rude!

last year a friend of ours had a ritzy wedding at the del coronado near san diego.  Their cocktail hour took place on the lawn and all these random people (obviously not guests of the wedding since they were in khaki shorts for the black tie required event) crashed for drinks and appetizers.  And then wouldnt leave when the wait staff stopped them!  They had to be strong armed out!

I know you dont want to do wrist bands (I hate tickets).  What does the restaurant suggest? Can you hire a security guard (just one shouldnt be more than $250-$300) for the night and stand him at the door to look imposing? What if the wrist bands were really cute and did double duty as favors for the guests?  Like those Live Strong wristbands everyone wears…

Post # 4
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Could you provide a small corsage or boutonniere for each of your guests to pin on as they come in the door? It could be something very simple like a small (inexpensive) flower and a pearl head pin. You could then ask the bar tenders to only serve to the people wearing "your" reception’s flowers. 


Post # 5
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

What does the restaurant have to say about this?  Do they even care?  I would think they would work with you on this since it would be a big down-side to anyone wanting to use them as a venue.

I think the corsage pin is a good idea- you could also just do a little ribbon- tied in a bow, in a color that matches your decor.  You could use those tiny little safety pins and guests could just pin them on.

Post # 6
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

what about a cute button too- guests could wear on their lapel or dress.  or a customized wrist stamp? (kind of too "clubbish"??)  I also like FUTUREMRSMORGANS idea for a customized live strong sort of bracelet too!

Post # 7
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

I am with Rosy – if having 2 weddings at the same time is to the benefit of the restaurant, it should assist you in solving this issue.  I would raise your concerns with the restaurant, first!

Post # 9
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I really don’t think I would worry about it. I am sure you have enough other things to worry about for the wedding. I mean…worst case scenario, you spend $100+ (hopefully less? hopefully not more…) on drinks for wedding crashers. If it were me…I would let it go and hope for the best. You probably can’t totally control this situation regardless of the solution you come up with so why stress about it? So…my solution would be no solution. Helpful, huh? 🙂 

Post # 10
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

What about something even simplier:  cut strips of ribbon for the guests to tie on their wrists?  Cheap and pretty (but not so pretty that guys would feel weird)

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