(Closed) Controversial, but my thoughts: Don’t Let your Budget Define Your Wedding Date!

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Great post! I totally agree! I think sometimes people just get caught up in all the things they think they are “supposed to” have and sometimes the big picture gets lost in the whole planning process. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I see your point OP but if a couple wants to have an extended engagement in order to save for the wedding they really want, then what’s the big deal? 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with BayStateBride.  I’m in my 20s, and I know what you’re saying about money, but we chose to have a longer engagement (1.5 years) so we could squirrel away a good chunk of money for the wedding.  I’m not going to settle for a short engagement and a wedding I don’t want or like just because I didn’t want to wait.  When my wedding comes along, every cent I’ve saved will be worth it!  It’s right for me, doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone else, just like your suggestion isn’t right for me but may be right for you.  

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well written, I too agree that some people get caught up in the wedding instead and forget about the marrriage

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@abuttercreamwedding:  I think the time spent leading up to the wedding, combining resources, sticking to a budget, designing a savings plan are all very important. If you’re going to be married to the one you live regardless, what difference does it make if they decide to be engaged for 2 month or 2 years? 

I believe the engagement is an important time in a relationship and it’d be a shame to “skip” it, because you’re too impatient to get married. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Well written. My philosophy is, if you can’t get married tomorrow by the JOP or at a chapel in a small ceremony, you shouldn’t be doing it. Meaning that while the ceremony/my wedding vows will be the most important thing I’ve done in my life, the reception isn’t. Our wedding shouldn’t be the “best day of our lives.” It may be the best party of our lives, which I’m perfectly ok with. But I think the best day will be every day after, when we make our way out into the world together. Like you wrote- “your budget does not define the value of your wedding.” You don’t have to save five years/go into debt to start your life together.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Amen!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Great post! Very well said! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I couldn’t have seen this at a better time. This feels like us right now. After spending thousands of dollars on medical bills, we made the decision to drop our budget, stop trying to afford something we didn’t have money left for, and focus on the things that were really important to us. It was a really hard decision for us to make, but we finally realized that the most important thing was for us to get 2 rings, a dress/suit, an officiant, and our family all together. So now–we have 1 month to plan everything. And we’ve decided we’re only doing what we can afford. While I know that’s not a decision everyone can make, for us the most important thing was focusing on getting back to good health, getting our finances back without stretching them further, and having our closest family and friends there to celebrate our relationship.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Great post! 

 

Our wedding shouldn’t be the “best day of our lives.”

That’s right, because then by that theory everything else is down hill!   LOL

Post # 15
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Busy bee

LOVE the at home wedding link!!! thanks for sharing!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just read all of Meg’s post and want to thank you so much for sharing. Fiance and I decided to get married despite a lot of uncertainty and I was having some doubts about the decision… basically because it wasn’t a “perfect” situation. Thank you so, so much for the perspective.

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