(Closed) Controversial: Is abortion out of the question after marriage?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is abortion out of the question after marriage?
    The criteria doesn't change regardless of marital status : (184 votes)
    64 %
    Why get married if you don't want to have children : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Marriage equals prepared for a family : (11 votes)
    4 %
    It's only OK when the woman's life is in danger : (45 votes)
    16 %
    It's only OK if the pregnancy is high risk : (29 votes)
    10 %
    I am against abortion in all situations : (14 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Aquaria: It just really depends on the couple, their marriage and where they are in life. For me, it would 95% out of the question after marriage.

    Post # 4
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    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Of course not. Being married doesn’t mean that you can’t have a valid reason for wanting to terminate a pregnancy. 

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Well m5 husband is catholic so hed say yes

    For me, if there was a serious abnormality id consider it

    Post # 6
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    669 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think it’s highly personal… for me, personally, now that I’m self sufficient, we earn a decent amount of income and we are in a committed loving relationship, yes, it would be out of the question (even now, before we’re wedded). But other families have different situations and I don’t judge them for it.

    ETA: because someone brought it up, this would be, for me, for a pregnancy generally. I probably would strongly consider ending the pregnancy should there be a genetic abnormality or other serious health concern.

    Post # 7
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    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think anything a woman and her husband decide is best for them is what should happen… However, sorry to thread jack, but here is another pertinent question:

     

    If a man and woman are married, and the woman gets pregnant and doesn’t want the child, but the husband does, what is to be done? Or vice versa, if the woman wants a baby but her husband doesn’t,  how would the situation be remedied?

     

    Post # 8
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    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The only reason i could possibly ever see as ok for an abortion is if the womans life is in great danger.

    Post # 10
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    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    Being married doesn’t necessarily mean you are ready for children, so I say no. If you are not financially/emotionally/healthily(word?) stable enough to carry out a healthy pregnancy then you probably shouldn’t.

    Post # 11
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    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think this really depends on the couple. There are many reasons a couple might choose to get an abortion, and many of them have nothing to do with marriage. For me though, being the age I am and financial situation I am in, I would not now get an abortion being married. I probably wouldn’t have had we gotten PG before marriage either. But a few years back I would have. It really depends on the couple. 

    Post # 13
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    415 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Jen51287:  +1, I also agree with it in cases of incest or rape.

    Post # 14
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    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @Aquaria:  It depends on the situation.  My ex husband didn’t reveal to me that he truly didn’t want any more kids until after I was pregnant.  He treated me like crap when I was pregnant during our marriage, hence a major reason I got an abortion and we are divorced.  Getting married doesn’t obliterate your responsiblity to be a good parent and having a child with someone whom didn’t want a child when I wasn’t able to support a child by myself on my own was not a good option.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    People who never want children still get married…

    I would terminate any pregnancy at any point in my life without hesitation (though hopefully won’t have to, because I’m on some great BC), but if I wasn’t 100% sure about terminating before marriage, I certainly would be after marrying a man who also really doesn’t want children. 

     

     

     

    Post # 16
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    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Fiance and I are CBC so we would abort any child regardless of marital status. 

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