- 7 years ago
Hey gang, long time reader first time signerupper. I have been reading some of these posts for a while, I really like hearing about other peoples goingons, people have great reccomendations, nice community and so on… any how,
ladies advice requested;
My long time serious SO and I had what a person could call a “rough patch” mostly he cut me out of his feelings and thoughts blahblahbla, but. It so happened that he had a ” it was a weird night, ok.” moment where in which he “connected” with another woman. Nothing became of this and I do believe him but I was pretty hurt, the whole closing your self to me whilst opening yourself to strangers was not cool beans. He did lie to me about it and avoid talking to me about it but in the end I found what he wrote to this stranger lady and again, pretty hurt by this. He appoligised and on and on and but,
he didn’t really do anything to make me feel special
So, after becoming bogged down by these not so nice feelings about this little topic, I ASKED him to do something, something to make me feel better.
I asked him to write me a message of his true feelings like he did for that girl, and then; he stopped talking to me all day. Then he didn’t do it.
We TALKED about it, ( he’s challenging to get talking ) and he said amongst other things, “I will, but I need to think about it,” then a week went by and I asked him and he said ” I haven’t had a chance, I need to think about it.”
OK. That SEEMS good. In My opinion this is a pretty simple thing that would make me feel alot better but it doesn’t SEEM like he’s thinking about it. Alot of stuff is going on with him, and work isnt going that well so he is stressed, but I don’t think he’s thinking about this.
What I am wondering ( trying to stop myself from thinking/obsessing about) is should I say anything more about this? Or should I just wait or forget about it all together?
Thanks very much.