- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
I new to the site, so I apologize if this topic has been hit before. My FH and I were both raised Catholic. We went through baptisim, communion, and confirmation. But, since then, we have both run into disagreements with some of he political viewpoints the curch holds and we now see ourselves as more spiritual than religious. Our familes are still extremely religious. We are getting married in December in a hotel. We are having the Ceremony and reception in a hotel (for ease of acess and in case the weather gets bad, as we live in Missouri). This has caused some extreme backlash in the family. Like, threats of being written out of wills. So, to make everyone happy, and becuase I really would like the church to see the marraige as valid (I tend to waiver in and out of religion), we are going to have a convalidation ceremony early in the morning the day of the wedding. We are going to invite both of our grandparents, and our parents, as they are the ones we want to see that part of the ceremony.
My father wants us to invite ALL of the family (all 200+ of them). I’ve been trying to explain to him how the validation ceremony (in my eyes) is not the actual wedding. I truly don’t think I will feel married until it is completed in he eyes of the government. I dont even think I’m going to wear my actual wedding dress to it. This is more of a pre-step needed to get to the actual ceremony.
Has anyone else ever run into this problem? I’m worried that, since we are doing somthing so unconventional, that we are going to be second-guessed at every turn. I just don’t feel right having a full ceremony in a Church. I really want the validation to happen, and for it to happen before the secualr ceremony, I’m just worried about it getting out of hand.