(Closed) Convalidation Ceremony Help

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 4
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No it isn’t inappropreate, your Mother-In-Law is the one out of line.

 

Have the wedding you want, if she gives you grief tell her you are renewing your vows sacramentally to make your marriage a sacrament.

 

I assume she is Catholic? if she is still having issues have her talk to the priest. 

Post # 5
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

I think it would be fine!  When Darling Husband and I did ours, we had a very small group with us and then had a nice dinner afterwards.  This was only 2 years after we had our larger wedding though, and we just wanted to keep it very small.  

Do what makes you and Darling Husband happy.  

 

Post # 6
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

What are her objections?  My Mother-In-Law wasn’t Catholic and she thought it was weird that we were doing it.  She said we were already married and  the church should just accept it.  After all the work, stress and time we had invested into being able to FINALLY get married in the church, I was really happy to celebrate though.  

Post # 8
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1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

First of all, it’s great you’re getting married in the Church. Congrats on that.

Second I’m sorry you’re dealing with this situation. If your priest is fine with you having the white dress etc and you want it, that’s all that matters. There HAS to be a ceremony, it’s called the convalidation ceremony for goodness sakes. At my parish they DO discourage convalidation brides from having the veil, bridal party, walk down the aisle and so forth, but I think that’s because they try to encourage people to do the church wedding to begin with.

If it helps you can mention to her that Princess Grace was married “at the courthouse” so to speak the day before her wedding to Prince Ranier… that’s just the way they do it in Monacco. Granted it was not a convalidation ceremony and it was the next day but I think it’s relevant. The Church does not consider you married in the true sense of the word if you are Catholic and all you’ve got is the piece of paper from the government. You are getting married in the eyes of the Church, that’s worth having a celebration for. I mean this is not your second blow-out wedding.

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