(Closed) Convalidation questions about dress, bridesmaid, and groomsmen.

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

congratulations! from what little i know about convalidations, it’s very small, intimate, and quick – sometimes done after mass. you can certainly have your support there, but i don’t think that it’s meant to include the traditional walking down the aisle, flowergirls, etc etc. since your priest isn’t very familiar with it either, i would work with him to see if he’s down for doing a mix of a convalidation with some of the conventions of a traditional ceremony that you’re looking for. hopefully, he will be willing to accomodate!

Post # 4
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh and for the dress, i think that if you never have, you should go traditional wedding dress shopping – if anything, for the experience! you’ll get an idea of what style you like on your body – if you didn’t do it up for the civil ceremony, maybe you’ll want to for the convalidation and reception. if you’d like something very simple though – i definitely suggest checking out the j crew bridal line (simple, flowy dresses), white bridesmaid dresses, or sites like preownedweddingdresses.com. if you have some style inspirations, let us know and we’ll try and help you out!

Post # 6
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My husband and I had a convalidation ceremony and it was essentially a wedding ceremony. It could have been as elaborate or as simple as we wanted (we worked all of that out with the priest beforehand). We had to go through pre-cana, etc in order to be recognized by the church. We made an appointment with the priest for a Saturday and brought along about a dozen family and friends. I wore an adorable pink dress that I got at Ross and a birdcage veil. My Dad did not walk me down the aisle, but he could have if that’s what we’d have wanted. Anyhoo, like many other Catholic ceremonies and traditions I imagine that this changes from parish to parish, but that’s how it worked out for us.

Post # 7
4122 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I shot photos of a military elopement before deployment and then the convalidation after. If you didn’t know better, you would have thought it was a traditional wedding. they had a bridal party and guests, the whole shebang…. including vows. There was no “I now pronounce you” it was more of a “here they are, mr and mrs.”

Post # 8
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

A convalidation is exactly the same as a “regular” wedding.  It’s exactly the same as a Rite of Marriage.  The only difference between a convalidation and a “regular” wedding is that there’s no marriage license signed at the end.  For that reason, it has to have a different name (in some states, it’s illegal to have a marriage ceremony without a marriage license to make gay marriage illegal).

You can wear the exact same dress, invite the exact same people, have the exact same music, and the exact same readings as a “normal” wedding.

Post # 9
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I did a convalidation with my first wedding.  We got married in Disney world and a year later did the convalidation.  We had a “normal” wedding – everything was the same.  I vote for having the bridesmaids, the wedding cake, the whole deal. 


Post # 11
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

you can go ahead and have everythink you want including BMs etc if you have a convalidation

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