- 8 years ago
Ok so here is a brief synopsis before I get into the issue: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we are headed towards engagement. We have an amazing relationship, but one issue. He is a realigious Roman Catholic and I am Jewish (non-religious) and planning to convert to Catholicism. Although I’m not converting for him, I am converting because of him, meaning I would have no reason to go against my family and convert if I wasn’t with him. I enjoy celebrating the catholic holidays with him and going to church, as it is so welcoming ad inviting, and I feel more connected to his religion than mine, so I feel I am doing this for the right reasons.
So here’s the issue: I am terrified to tell my family of my decision to convert! It’s not like a division of christianity to another, it’s a huge life change – Judaism to Roman Catholicism. My parents love my boyfriend and accept him as Catholic, but they have made it clear that being Jewish is so important to them. Where do I draw the line? I don’t want to disappoint or hurt them, but I know this will raise hell, with a huge possibility of driving a wedge between myself and my family. On the other hand, I can’t live my life according to my family and what they want and what makes them happy, because at the end of the day, it’s not they’re life, it’s mine, and I have to live with my choices and live my own life. It’s my happiness on the line here. I love my family and they have always been there, but I am terrified that once I tell them my decision, they won’t be anymore, and I will have to choose between my family and my relationship. I also don’t want them to think that I’m only converting for him. I believe religion should be a choice, not something you should have to follow simply because you were born into it. So again, where do I draw the line? Does anyone have any words of encouragement or advice on how to go about this? All opinions are appreciated!!