Post # 1
Grandma rarely comes up North. Only for weddings, which is twice in the last 10 years. She’s so happy for me and thrilled to attend. I didn’t think she’d actually come because she’s so exhausted but she said it was worth it. It was going to be the most important aspect of the entire event for me and the family. Now she’s sick, like really sick, and the hospital doesn’t know how or if there anything to do to treat her. Obviously she will no longer be attending. That would take a miracle. It’s making me miserable and I’m no longer enthusiastic. I just want to call the whole thing off. Then again I’m not sure if she’d want me to do that. I’m praying that she holds on at least long enough to celebrate with me in some way or another, even if it’s via Skype. Sorry, just needed to vent.
Post # 3
@Aquaria: That’s horrible! I’m so sorry. I wish the best for her! I would continue on planning the wedding, don’t call it off. Send her photos, skype, etc with her! Can you fly out there to see her? I bet that’d make her very happy. 🙂
Post # 4
I wouldn’t call it off. I think you would regret not having your wedding and as hard as it is not to have grandparents with you remember she will ALWAYS be with you in some form or another. If a lot of the people attending your wedding will not come due to her illness though then maybe you have to edit your plans a little. Would it be possible to go see your grandma with your Fiance before the wedding? Maybe that would make you feel better about her being left out? I’m so sorry you’re going through this though! ((HUGS))
Post # 5
@Aquaria: That must be so hard for you. I hope your grandma gets better. All I can say is that if it were my grandparents, they would feel absolutely dreadful if I called off my wedding for them. That would be the last thing they would want. I am sure your grandma wants you to have your special day even if she is very sad not to be able to attend herself.
Post # 7
Best wishes to her and I pray for your strength and peace of mind. I wouldn’t call it off. Follow your heart though.
Post # 8
Why dont you fly down to see her and sign the papers there with her and have a little reception, nothing fancy just a small family dinner?
Post # 9
@Aquaria: I’m almost certain that bc she loves you so much, she wouldn’t want you to call it off! I’m so sorry to hear this, I’ll keep her in my thoughts and prayers xoxo
Post # 10
Well, as a grandmother myself, the very LAST thing I would want you to do is to call it off. It is certainly evident in your post that she is very important to you, so you must be quite important to her.
If I were in her shoes right now, I’m pretty sure I would be telling you to honor me by going out and having the most wonderful wedding day, to be happy, and laughing, and smiling, and hitting the dance floor so you could have a dance for me. If you were my grandchild it would mean the world to me to have you take that wedding day by the horns and show everyone what a lovely bride you are and what a lovely life you are starting. It would be heartbreaking to think my circumstances would take that away from you.
When is your wedding? If she is able to skype your wedding, send her a super beautiful corsage to wear as she watches and give her a special wink and a smile.
How do your parents feel about all of this? I am truly sorry for your grandmother’s turn in her health and I really hope she can see your wedding via skype. Best wishes to you.
Post # 11
My mom passed away exactly one month before my daughter’s wedding. I could feel very definitely feel her (and my dad’s) spirit with us. So even if she does pass away, it is so important to go on with life-celebrating with the family and loved ones we still have. I’m sure that is what your grandmother would want for you. Sending prayers and best wishes for you all.
Post # 12
@PiggehBank: we already had the wedding, parents were the only ones who attended (town hall). This will be our actual reception, where our entire family will be. All the people she never gets to see because she lives so far away, but it would be the best reunion ever. Everyone was looking forward to seeing her too, even my husband’s family. She was literally going to be the guest of honor.
Post # 13
I would still forge ahead.
Post # 14
@minipenguin: I’d love to but she doesn’t want me to see her in this condition. Maybe this makes me sound like a monster but I’d rather not witness her in pain either. It breaks my heart when I talk to her on the phone and she tells me how much she’s suffering. I don’t know if I could handle it in person.
Post # 15
@Aquaria: I’m so sorry about your grandma, but honestly, I don’t think she would want you to call it off. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you right now, but go forth with your plans and do it for her. If there’s anyway to skype with her, then do it, but if that’s not possible you should still hold your wedding. Maybe, you could visit her right after or even right before? Either way, I think she would be more upset if you canceled it.
Post # 16
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this! I agree with the others, that you should not call it off…..that she would want you to move ahead and do it for her. I am sure she cherishes the thought that her granddaughter is getting married and starting a new chapter, especially if she is physically suffering. But most important is that you follow your heart. My thoughts are with you!