(Closed) Please convince me to not upgrade my center stone.

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
25 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you really want to upgrade, you might want to wait until you can make a bit more than a .3ish ct upgrade…just my humble opinion…but I’d think that maybe the “bang” you’re looking for, you would want a bigger difference? 


Also, this is silly, but 2 things help me ‘avoid’ the itch. 1) If I keep my rings clean they look so pretty and sparkly that I can’t imagine needing/wanting another…vs. when they’re a bit dirty and dull, they look smaller. 2) Just wear your wedding band by itself for a little while 🙂 I have to do this work work sometimes (latex gloves, solitaire, annoying), and when I put my solitaire back on after not wearing it, it’s just as beautiful as having gotten it for the first time!


I am super sentimental about my set though, so I could be biased 🙂 

Post # 33
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your ring is gorgeous just the way it is. Honestly I think upgrading would distract you from the other details of the ring. Don’t change a thing!

But if you still really have that “itch” how boat a nice white saphire ring for your right hand for an anniversary. I wanted a three stone and i got something different so i’m gonna pick out a few white saphire three stone rings and HINT it to my hubby. Relatively inexpensive so i can “beg” for a different one every few years. lol.

Post # 34
2531 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I know I wouldn’t even have the option… apart from loving my ring, my fiance spent a lot of TIME selecting the diamond and is SUPER PROUD of the process (and quirky circumstances) it took for him to select it!
He’d be hurt if I switched it, even if he didn’t tell me outright.

Post # 35
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sheepandbear:  I think instead of upgrading the center stone, maybe you and your husband can get a band similar to your wedding band to stack above the engagement ring? Our wedding photographer did this with her engagement and wedding ring and it looks beautiful. That way you get a bit more bling and it’s still gorgeous! 🙂 I am thinking about doing this when we have our 5 year anniversary or something. 

But like PP stated, if you have the finances readily available to upgrade your center stone then that is what you should do. It sounds to me like your husband doesn’t mind…that is important too so you don’t end up hurting his feelings. And I can understand about comparing stones to other people’s stones, I think it probably is a normal thing to do. I feel this way about my wedding even though I have only been married a week. I find myself comparing my wedding to others, although it doesn’t really matter because me and my Darling Husband had a wonderful day albeit hectic. LOL =) 

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