Post # 1
Long story short, we recently started really talking about rings, and what I liked, and I found out that his mom had offered him his grandmother’s ring to use for me. She even told him he could reset it if he wanted, but he says the stone is to small.
Problem is we don’t really have the money for an expensive ring at this point, and even more than that, I absolutely love the idea of heirloom jewelry. I don’t know how to convince him, or even if I can, that I would be perfectly fine with his grandmothers ring, even though it’s small, and that I love the idea of wearing something from a loving marriage like thiers.
I guess my question for you ladies is what would you do in this situation. I don’t think he gets that I love the thought of wearing his grandmother’s ring, even though i have told him so. He just thinks its to small, so I think its a pride thing for him. I wonder if I should just let it go. I am sure I will love whatever he gets, but I have never been much of a jewelry person, so a ring with sentimental value would mean much more to me than some other random ring.
Post # 3
I would tell him point blank just what you said here: that the symbolism and history of a family ring from the family you’ll be joining and a loving marriage like his grandparents’ is more important to you than the size of the stone. And point out gently that *you’ll* be the one wearing if every day, so it should be something that makes you happy.
If you think his pride is the issue, tell him you’ll be happy to let him buy a fancier wedding band (maybe a wrapper band that makes the setting on the heirloom ring more dramatic) or wear any other jewelry he wants to buy you later, but that for now, for sentimental reasons, you would really love to wear that particular ring. Emphasize the connection to his family and how much that would mean to you and avoid pointing out the financial sense (even though it’s also very financially responsible). Maybe even throw in that you like the idea of it becoming a true heirloom that your children might one day pass on, a connection down through generations of your family. If he has a lot of pride, the sentiment of you appreciating his family history and identity may appeal to him.
Post # 4
@Bubblesmcgee: thanks for the advice 🙂 sounds like a good plan. I’m going t. Look up some ring enhancers so he can have an idea of what I am talking about
Post # 5
I would say something like how the ring symbolizes you becoming part of his family (of course, him becoming part of yours too) and that an heirloom ring carries so much more history and tradition than a new one.
When you get it, shows us pics! 😀