Post # 16
As long as they’re the same color and general style (i.e. nude pumps or black strappy shoes) I think it’s fine. I think brides should try to stick with shoes that most girls already have. For mine, all I asked was that they were black sandal type shoes, which they all already had.
It makes me rage when brides want their bridesmaids to go out and buy extra special shoes. I don’t want to spend money on bright yellow sandals or gold glitter heals I’ll never wear again. I’ll likely resent you forever if you make me. Especially if the dress is long and no one will even see the shoes!!
Post # 17
If the shoes can’t be seen, then I would be fine with them wearing whatever they want. However, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the bride asking for a specific color. I am completely against the bride picking out the actual shoes, though- everyone’s feet are different.
My bridesmaids’ dresses are short and I told them to just wear a nude/silver/grey that is comfortable!
Post # 18
All the same colour is what I went with, sort of – I just said something in the black/grey/charcoal family. I don’t care what kind of shoe (i.e. flat, heel, wedge, whatever) because they’re the ones that have to wear it, but I didn’t want anything distracting or clashing. While I do think that the dress is for the most part the bride’s pick, I think the actual shoe should be chosen by each girl. When I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I will wear a hideous dress with absolutely no complaints and I’ll be happy to do it, but killer shoes, I just can’t do haha.
Post # 19
If the dresses are long, I don’t see why it matters. I would let them wear whatever. It would also probably help a lot of them out with cost since they’d be able to wear something in their own closet.
Post # 20
I’ve just asked my BMs to wear a neutral colored flat or sandal with no heel (getting married on the lawn, so heels would be no fun) and they have cocktail length dresses. Honestly, who is even going to care/notice the color/style of Bridesmaid or Best Man shoes? Unless they were neon green like PP said lol 🙂 that wouldn’t be so nice if it was coordinated in some way!
Post # 21
I voted same color, but really I think it should just be same color-ish like nude/gold/bronze or grey/silver, shades of light blue, etc. I don’t think they have to be the exact same color. Also, for a long dress, a neutral color should be fine – one that most, if not all, the BMs already owned.
If you require a specific shoe or an uncommon color (one that your BMs likely wouldn’t have) then the bride should pay for the shoes.
Post # 22
If the shoes can be seen then all same colour. It’s difficult to get the shade exactly matching if they are wearing different brands/shoes so like for my girls i said nude shoes but I know some will be pinkier and some will be more brown and that’s fine. The difference will be negligible and they’ll have a shoe they like and can wear again.
Post # 23
My girls are wearing long dresses (all different styles though). I requested silver shoes/silver jewelry but they can wear whatever (heels, flats, etc.) I just said no flip flops during pictures/ceremony but feel free to put them on for dancing!
Post # 24
For my wedding, the bridesmaids wore knee length dresses. All I told them was “wear shoes that you like and will be comfortable in and are either yellow, silver, black, white, beige.
Some wore flats, some wore heels, and all I can tell you is two girls wore yellow… and it honestly didn’t matter. No one looks at people’s feet in the photos anyway. So I voted free for all!
Post # 25
I think the bride should pick the color and let the girls pick whatever shoes they are comfortable in.
Post # 26
i could have cared less what my BMs wore on their feet. actually one my BMs wore the same shoes as me.
no one is looking at their feet. maybe one or two pictures captured their feet but it is a group shot and you aren’t looking that close.
let them be comfortable and wear what they want.
Post # 27
I think “same color” is the best, long dresses dont’ completely cover shoes unless they aren’t hemmed properly and you never walk.
But it doesn’t even have to be one color – I told my girls nude or tan or pale pink whatever they wanted, strappy or pump, and they just went with it.
Post # 28
I think if you are picking something that you know your girls don’t have, then you have to pay for it. That means if you want them in coral shoes (but not necessarily the same shoe), and they don’t have coral shoes, you pay.
That also means that even if the color is something you think of as ‘neutral’, if most or all of your girls don’t have it, you still pay. I was in a wedding once where the bride desperately wanted us all in “gold” shoes. Not a single one of us owned anything remotely close to “gold” shoes. We all had black shoes, white shoes, most of us even had nude shoes. But not a single girl had “gold” shoes.
The dresses were long, no one could see the shoes, and we were resentful at having yet another wedding expense (for shoes we would most assuredly never wear again).
Post # 29
I voted “same color” but I really mean anything that’s not ridiculous (neon green stilletos). I told my girls that grey would be great, to match the groomsmen but I didn’t really care that much if they didn’t have or couldn’t find grey. I’m also about to be in a wedding and the bride just said some light colored shoes (silver, white, pale pink) which was great.
Post # 30
If the dresses are long then whatever goes. No one gives a shit about shoes they’re not wearing and can’t see.