Post # 31
The last time I was a bridesmaid, I wore a short dress AND shoes of my choosing, that didn’t match the other bridemaid at all. The horror!
Who cares what shoes they’re wearing? Especially since you won’t see them.
Post # 32
I have been a bridesmaid 3 times. The first time I had to wear a long dress. The only request was the shoes were to be silver. Fine I can do that. The second time the dresses were long and we all had to wear the same shoes. This time I was not fine with it because the bride choose shoes that were on clearence at this one store. Of course they don’t have my size no longer in stock so I had to find them on the web which were way more money. The last wedding I was in the dresses were short and the bride wanted matching but she bought them with her own money but since they were so cheap I gave her cash for them. For my wedding since the dresses are long all I request is that the shoes are black. I think if the dresses are long and they are the same color it is fine.
Post # 33
For my wedding I am asking my bridesmaids to all wear the same color, but to wear what’s comforatable. I made this decision after I had to wear unbearable (expensive) shoes for someone else’s wedding, and I just didn’t want to make others go through that. I also think it’s silly for them to spend even more $ on shoes they will never wear again. Everyone wears shoes differently, and everyone is a different height, so I figure it’s just easiest to let them pick. Now, I am being pretty simple and asking that they wear nude shoes, which are easy to find IMO. If you found some super specific colored ones, I guess it’s a little tricky, but ultimately, no one will really be looking at their shoes, so as long as they’re similar, I think you are fine.
Post # 34
Same or similar color.
The only long dresses that completely hide shoes are the big poofy ballgowns, and I don’t even trust those. I’ve seen women try to pull off the whole sneaker in a floor-length dress thing. Their whole “no one will see them” argument was proven wrong when everyone saw them.
Post # 35
My BM’s are wearing short dresses so I just told them that their shoes just need to be silver. I don’t think anything is wrong with saying what color the shoes are.
Post # 36
We did a free for all. Actually, I asked that each girl choose a colour, and go with it. They wore the same dress, so this was a way to make them individual and add some extra colour in the mix.
Post # 37
I just told my girls Nude shoes. Only my Maid/Matron of Honor was in a long dress, but I really didn’t care. Everyone has different ideas of comfort and level of skill when it comes to walking in heels on cobblestone. Lol!
Post # 38
I voted that they should all be the same color. My bridesmaids all wore long dresses, and I asked each of them to select a silver sandal of their choosing that met certain specifications.
Post # 39
I specifically went with a dress colour that was appropriate with black shoes. They all have them, they all wear them, they can choose whichever pair strikes their fancy that day. Some will be in heels, 2 will definitely be in flats, I really don’t care. I want them to be comfortable. And they’re already paying enough for the wedding I didn’t want them to have any additional costs.
Then again, I was cool with different dresses too. They decided to go with matching dresses (however, they’re all wearing the sash differently. MOH doesn’t even have a sash – she’s wearing a blingy belt. 2 are having their dress built up with the left over hemmings and the leftover sash, 1 to meet modesty requirements and to make it more age appropriate for the Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man.) So maybe I’m just not a fan of matchy-matchy.
As an odd sized girl (size 12 foot) I hate when people insist on wearing the exact same shoe. Because I’m going to limit the options available to us and usually jack up the price in order to get a shoe in my size. And I’m already 6’1, so if you throw even a 3 inch heel on me I’ll tower over most people in your bridal party. Unless its a basketball/volleyball wedding. Then I’m with my people and we’re good. 😛
Post # 40
I love this! It’s so fun.
Post # 42
My girls are wearing short dresses, and I’m happy for them to wear whatever shoes they want. I trust their taste, and I’d prefer them to have a bit of individual style rather than looking like clones of each other.
Also I really hate wearing uncomfortable shoes – foot pain can make you so miserable. And what’s comfortable is going to vary from person to person. So I would never try and pick out shoes for someone else, even less try and make a group of women wear the same shoe and assume that they’ll fit everybody the same. I’d prefer that my bridesmaids are happy and comfortable.
Post # 43
I voted same for all.. but that’s only based on my wedding. I wouldn’t expect my girls to buy shoes I wanted, but I’m buying everything for them, so I do expect them to wear them. They will be flats, though, so they should be comfy.
Post # 44
I voted same color/style. My bridesmaids had an Audrey Hepburn sort of look going on, with black short dresses so I requested they wear black shoes that were closed toe/winter appropriate (like a businessy black pump, but not strappy sandal). I said flats were fine but they all chose to wear a heel. I got 2 black pumps, 1 peep toe pump, and 1 black heel with a tie in the front thing that went up the foot. Even though they strayed a little, it wasn’t worth it so I didn’t say anything. They looked great and felt great.
I think matching bridesmaid shoes is cute but only okay if the bride pays for it. I feel the same way about mandatory professional hair/makeup.
Post # 45
I voted Free for all. My girls are all wearing black long dresses. I said to just use something they already had or wear flip flops for all I cared because I want them to be comfortable. There is an extensive amount of walking to do espeically for pictures so I don’t wanna hear anyone complain that their feet hurt when I gave them all a choice. I can understand with short dresses to have shoes that match but really with a long dress, hemmed correctly you’ll barely be able to see the foot wear (the last dress i had hemmed for a wedding you couldn’t see my flip flops when I walked). I’m all about keeping it cheap for my girls, giving them options to keep their budget as low as possible. I think it all depends on the look/vision the bride is going for.