Post # 1
Hey All 🙂
This is my first post, i love this forum I have been searching on google for the past few months looking for a forum like this. Its nice to know Im not the only one in this situation, although I wish all of us weren’t having this problem!!
Anyway, a little background history. My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly five years, since I was 17, hes a year older. So I’m 22 now and I’m still waiting for the proposal 🙁 I’m graduating uni in a few months year, he has a full time job and we plan to move in together in 4 months or so.
But for the past year we have been having the same arguement over and over again about engagement. I want to get engaged more than anything, after five years I know he is the one. Both my family and his family have mentioned to us about engagement but he just doesnt seem to want to know. We had another arguement this weekend about engagement and he came out and said “fine,we’ll buy you a ring and Ill propose now if it’s making you that upset” but i didnt want it to be like that so I said no. Then he said that he doesnt like to be pushed and the more I push the more he wont want to do something and that he wants to make the proposal special. He wants me to be suprised and he wants to do it in his own time!
I dont want to keep bringing engagements up or being pushy, but I’m finding it really hard to cope. It feels like everyone around me is getting engaged after only a year. I’m feeling really down about it now, but ive made a pact to myself to try and not bring up e or m around him, and im just spending too much of my life getting upset about something which should be one of the happiest days of my life.
Anyway around to my question- How do you guys cope with waiting and this constant limbo we seem to be in? Any answers or suggestions welcomed.
Me and my best mate have just organised food plans and the gym, so I’m starting to think of ways to distract myself, but more ideas would be welcomed!
Thanks ladies 🙂
Post # 3
I’m moving in with my boyfriend in a couple months, and so my “project” is to decorate the house. He is already living there (a place he bought before we met) and so that’s what I do to keep my mind off engagement. Although it doesn’t fully work since I”m on the ‘bee everyday still. 🙂
Post # 4
It’s funny but when I’m around my SO I barely think about getting engaged. The second he’s not around is a whole other story. But I try to make myself busy. We are both foodies (and big eaters) so a lot of our time is spent finding new places and eating out. Just find something you are passionate about and go for it. Or, since you are moving in together in a few months you could occupy your time with apartment searching. And if all else fails, I just jump on here and read till it’s all out of my system.
I’m 23, soon to be 24 (my SO is 29), and I constantly hear, “You’re so young. You have all the time in the world.” And granted, 5 years in your early 20’s isn’t the same as 5 years of dating in your 30’s. But I think people fail to remember that 5 years is still 5 years. It’s still waiting. It still requires a certain level of patience and faith in your relationship. It sounds like he’s on board so I wouldn’t worry too much. Can’t wait to hear how it happens.
Post # 5
I totallt agree with claiareos: I mostly think about this kind of stuff when he’s not around! I think finding ways to occupy yourself is the best solution. I find working out to be helpful- it both gets my mind off the relationship, and makes me feel like I’m only making myself an ultimately cuter bride.
Post # 6
I totally agree with claireos: I mostly think about this kind of stuff when he’s not around! I think finding ways to occupy yourself is the best solution. I find working out to be helpful- it both gets my mind off the relationship, and makes me feel like I’m only making myself an ultimately cuter bride.
Post # 7
@PLstillwaiting: hi honey, welcome! just a litle heads up, i recently moved in with my bf and it makes the waiting so much harder being around him all the time. because i’m so happy, i just want to be his wife already!! so if you’re already having a hard time waiting, i would suggest you consider not moving in until he does propose. i’m not telling you what to do just trying to help. and good luck with the wait, i hope it’s not much longer!
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