(Closed) Coping with a wedding that didn't go so well for me. My nightmare.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Now that you’ve got an idea of what’s going on, I think you should start planning an awesome party.  You could go as far as to renew your vows, but seriously — you need to have an amazing party!!!  You have so much to celebrate — an awesome husband, a new understanding of what the HECK was going on, the fact that you got married, that it was sunny today, etc.  Throw yourself a party!!!

Post # 4
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That is a whole bunch going on…. it sounds like you have Fibromyalgia….. Pray all goes well….. even though you didnt have the wedding you wanted, try to look for the positives from teh day and like the other poster said… plan a kick butt 1 year anniversary party.   Hope you are feeling better. 

Post # 5
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

  You found the cause of the problems, and it’s getting better – that’s wonderful! And you managed to make it through the day, which is seriously impressive. You’re a year in, so plan an awesome vow renewal and party. It’s not about the day, it’s the  meaning of it.  Better and worse,  sickness and health, which clearly applies to you both.  You’ve got a great  husband, celebrate how far you’ve come  together!

Post # 6
2935 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I am so sorry you were through this. I think, rather than contemplating whether you might need to see a therapist, you should just find a therapist now. If you haven’t been able to get over this in 8 months, despite talking about it with your loving and supportive husband, don’t waste any more time. Go now. It’s common to need some professional help to get past difficult things, and what you experienced definitely counts. Get some help so that you can feel better emotionally!

Post # 10
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lepidoptera:  glad you’re doing better.

Don’t beat yourself up over ruining anything for your husband.  It is not your fault that you were sick.  I’m sorry you went through this.

Post # 12
27 posts

@Lepidoptera:  honestly? Throw a party with whoever can make it! Make it lighthearted, ensure a few key people are there (whether they’re friends or family or both, send one or 2 happy snaps to the rest) renew your vows, do your hair however makes you feel pretty, put a few flowers in it, wear any white dress that you feel cute in, drink dance & eat good food (even if it’s sausages on a BBQ) all night. Recreate those amazing memories, minus the pressure. It will be EXACTLY what you need. Please keep us updated! & best of wishes with your health I’m glad you’re on the mend 

Post # 13
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Whole lots of things going on here.

First, I’m glad you’re doing better

Second, I’m glad you’ve got such an awesome husband who is being so supportive.

Third, your wedding day is over. It didn’t go as you planned. And that sucks. It really does. You won’t get that day back. And you have a right to greive for that loss. But then you really just have to get over it. Because there’s nothing else to do but live your life. Your healthy life. When you think of your wedding, try to think of the positive things. Getting bonded to the man you love. The dancing. Being surrounded by family and friends. Make an active decision to focus on the good and try to not think about the bad. But most of all, just try to move forward. There may not be another wedding. But there will be plenty more amazing days for you and your husband. Focus on that. And take this opportunity to really appreciate your health and the experiences that you can have moving forward.

Post # 14
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My heart hurts for you! I hope that you find out what is wrong soon, and in the meantime it sounds like you have a pretty wonderful and supportive hubby to help you through. Congrats on your new marriage by the way. 

Edit I just re read that you have figured it out now. You guys should have a honeymoon to celebrate now that you’re starting to feel better- you deserve it !!

Post # 15
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You may not have had the wedding you wanted, but it definitely sounds like you have a great marriage and husband!

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