Coping with Chemical Pregnancy

posted 3 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
170 posts
Blushing bee

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@alishorten444:  I am so sorry for your loss. No matter how early, it is just gut wrenching, and I feel for you <3 Everything you’re feeling is valid. 

I had an early miscarriage at 6.5 weeks this past January. It was really drawn out and exhausting and I didn’t realize how hard it was on me until my friend announced she was pregnant shortly after we lost our little bean. I am glad that her announcement forced me to come to terms with my grief and process it. 

I am now 7w2d pregnant! We did not get pregnant RIGHT away (it was the third cycle following my MC), simply because my sister is getting married this fall and I didn’t want to risk having a due date that would guarantee I would miss her out of town wedding. I am not going to lie, since we lost our first, I do think I am experiencing more worry than my friends who haven’t experienced that… but it’s ok and I find ways to manage and do my best to love this lil babe as long as I get to carry it.

Hang in there, and do whatever you need to process. No matter how early the loss, there is no denying once you see those two lines, you start to envision life with your little one. It’s a big deal no matter what. Take time to grieve. Fingers crossed your sticky bean will soon be here.

Post # 4
3151 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry – a loss is a loss, no matter when it occurs. Be kind to yourself and take however much time you need to process this and mourn. <3

My story: I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks followed by two back to back CPs when we were TTC our first. I then conceived again on the next cycle and that rainbow baby is now a wild 2.5 year old. I’m pregnant again with baby 2 (due in just a few weeks), and despite being “geriatric” this time, TTC was faster and easier (just 3 months, no losses along the way), and the pregnancy itself has been easier on my body once morning sickness ended.

The vast majority of women who have a loss will go on to conceive a healthy baby before too long after. Just anecdotally, I know so many women who conceived within three cycles after their loss, so there may be something to the claim that a MC can make you more fertile. I hope you are pregnant with your take home baby very soon!

Post # 5
3934 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry to hear this. Chemical pregnancies and miscarriages are both incredibly heartbreaking experiences. I went through IVF after 3 years TTC and that cycle ended in a chemical pregnancy. It was my first time every seeing a positive pregnancy test and it broke me. Fortunately, I got pregnant our next round of IVF! She is now 3. I then had an unplanned natural pregnancy and she is now 1.5! Even crazier, I’m now 5.5 weeks pregnant again (naturally). I’m a nervous wreck because it’s still early, of course.
You WILL get your take home baby and this experience will become part of your own beautiful story of how you sacrificed and fought to become a mother. Sending love!

Post # 6
1899 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

I’m so sorry for your loss. A lot of women report getting pregnant the next cycle after a miscarriage, and there have been studies suggesting that women are more fertile after a miscarriage, so it can happen! Full disclosure, this was not the case for me (I had three consecutive losses) and while I did eventually get pregnant again (am in my third trimester now), it was through IVF. I know several women who have had a miscarriage and then gotten pregnant the next cycle, so both anecdotally and based on what I have read it’s fairly common. 

Post # 10
683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m sorry you’re going through this. The reality is that the vast majority of people will conceive after a miscarriage or a chemical pregnancy. I unfortunately was the worst case scenario and will never have a successful pregnancy, but my situation was super rare and due to a condition that doesn’t have an easy fix. I wouldn’t be concerned about getting pregnant again after one chemical pregnancy as most likely it was just a chromosomal issue that isn’t indicitave of a serious problem. It’s still a horrible thing to go through. I hope you are able to get pregnant with your take home baby when you’re ready to try again. 

Post # 11
367 posts
Helper bee

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@alishorten444:  First I am so sorry for your loss. A loss at any stage can be devastating. I had a loss around the time you did. It was also so hard, and we had been trying for that point almost a year. For me I had thyroid issues, so after my loss I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism, and put on medication. Once the medication got my hormone levels where they should I conceived within 3 months, and now have a happy healthy 19 month old son. 

If you are worried I’d definitely just get some basic bloodwork done to ensure hormone levels etc.. are normal. Best of luck and baby dust <3

Post # 12
4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@alishorten444:  I had back to back miscarriages before six weeks before having my daughter. It is so rough. We had been trying for four years at that point and my body just kept failing. Regaining trust in my body was the hardest thing. Hang in there!

Post # 13
2290 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also had a CP after 9 months of TTC, and it was pretty devastating. I did get pregnant immediately after that loss and now have a 2.5 and a 1 year old– so while I’m not sure of the exact science behind it, it seems like there IS something to be said for some post CP or MC fertility magic.

Post # 14
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Adding to the success stories, I had a loss at 6 weeks and 2 days back in early March, and conceived exactly 2 weeks later. I’m now 10 weeks pregnant, we’ve seen a healthy heartbeat, and things are going well so far. It took us 9 months of INTENSE trying (there was no “let’s just see what happens”, we were all in from day 1) to get pregnant the first time, so I know how hard it is to lose a pregnancy you had to work so hard for. While I know loss is heartbreaking for everyone, that added factor is HARD. 

I will say, pregnancy after loss is hard, and you definitely lose that naive bliss and assumption that everything will be fine. The upside though, at least so far, is that it has really put everything in perspective for me. I mean no offense to anyone, but when you’ve lost a longed-for pregnancy, things like morning sickness and gender preferences are just a non-issue, and every milestone feels like an utter miracle. I’m thankful for that. 

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