Coping with Chemical Pregnancy

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Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I got pregnant roughly 5 months after a miscarriage at 7 weeks or so—and the results of that pregnancy is now happily gumming his first ever bite of egg. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee

I had back-to-back early miscarriages in early 2019. Two weeks after the second miscarriage I got pregnant for a 3rd time – I had my identical twins in December 2019.  Those miscarriages were awful, but without them, I wouldn’t have my perfect boys. Sending you love!! 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@alishorten444:  BIG hugs. Miscarriages are so hard and when they are early it feels weird grieving. But it’s a loss. I feel you bee. I had an early miscarriage at 6 weeks. I skipped the next cycle. BFN the 2nd cycle. And the 3rd cycle is now a snuggle bug 10week old.

it helped me to name the baby in my mind and say I love you and goodbye. My husband planted a cherry blossom tree by conincidence on the day I got my positive. So I call that first pregnancy “Sherri” because it sounds like cherry. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

OP, I’m sorry for your loss. I will say that miscarriage stats are presented a bit too simply. I remember my doctor telling me you have a 25% chance of loss before trimester 2 but after really looking into the numbers, that’s not quite right. Your risk of a miscarriage before week 5 is almost 50% (many people have a chemical and don’t even realize it), then by week 7 it’s down to something like 10%, and by week 8 if you’ve seen a heartbeat it’s like 1 or 2%. I found knowing the actual statistics breakdown super helpful when it came to relaxing about miscarriage in my first trimester!

My personal story is that I had a chemical pregnancy the cycle right before BOTH my successful pregnancies! It was disapointing both times (especially the second time because it took us a while to conceive), but it shows that your body can get pregnant and that both your equipment works! 

Let yourself feel your feelings and try to look at it as a sign that your body can and will get pregnant! <3

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper

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@alishorten444:  The term “chemical pregnancy” is IMO unfortunate. No one is a little bit pregnant. Either you are or you aren’t and with that comes all those plans, hopes and dreams. No one is less entitled to their feelings on the basis of what amounts to semantics. There is a fine line between downplaying the emotional impact of an early miscarriage and being able to label it as such and mourn the loss.

Going by these terms though I had one of each, chemical pregnancy, and miscarriage, then went on to have very uneventful and successful pregnancies. It helped to know how very common this is and for me, as close as I am to family and friends, that we hadn’t yet announced the pregnancies. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

I had a chemical pregnancy last month, I kinda knew something wasn’t right because the line was a bit faint (with my daughter the line was super clear) two days later the line was even fainter so I knew it wasn’t good and the next day AF came… 

I also read that your body might be more fertile after a chemical, don’t know if it’s true but I just had a BFP last night, the line is a lot stronger than last month so fingers crossed… 

Hope you get your BFP soon!!! 

Edit: Happy Birthday Bee!!!!! 

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