(Closed) Coping with Miscarriage

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and no I don’t think you’re “silly” for being upset.

I wish I could say something to make that go away, but all I have is the same word I stand on…

I pray that God’s supernatural peace beyond understanding will meet you right where you are and overwhelm you’re grief. That you find comfort in Him and know that He has not forgotten or left you, but continues to use everything in His purposes for you!

Whatever you do… don’t isolate yourself or pull from your husband (or loved ones)…. keeping communication open is so important… so you two can grow more together rather than apart.. plus the enemy LOVEs to isolate us in our troubles… stick close to those who love you and let your heart grieve…. it’s in that pain that Jesus does AWESOME things!

*praying for you*

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

(((((HUGS))))) I don’t even know what to say, but I am so very, very sorry. 

Post # 5
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage last year and understand how awful it is. I miscarried at 6 weeks, but didn’t find out until 12. I don’t think it matters when you miscarry, either way you have a baby and you’ve lost it, even if it isn’t full grown. I cried for weeks after that. I would wake up in the middle of the night, bawling. It’s ok to grieve, you’ve just been through something horrible.

I had a rough miscarriage, I had crazy heavy bleeding and had to have 2 D&C’s, I think that helped a little b/c it took a while to get through it all so I allowed myself to be upset for that full amount of time. Plus, when you’re going through physical things you can kind of forget about the emotional. We started TTC the second my doctor said we could, and I got pregnant that first month. Now I’m 29 weeks, and still terrified that something will happen. People always say how common this is, but you still just don’t think it will happen to you, and it doesn’t make it any better that it did happen to you.

Again, I’m so sorry that you are going through this, if you want to talk more or have questions feel free to PM me!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am so sorry.  And no, there’s nothing silly about feeling so upset, it’s a hard thing no matter when it happens to you.  I have to agree with pp about isolating yourself.  It’s an easy thing to do, when I went through it, I told a friend, and told her to make sure that I poked my head up for air every few days, and it helped.

Again, I’m so sorry.  Let us know if there is anything that you need.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Being pregnant touches you even if it’s only been a few days.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m so sorry. ((HUGS)) Just like you, I found out last year only a week before I found out I was going to miscarry. I was devastated. Like the poster above, I had a very rough miscarriage. (lasted 5 weeks, finally ending in a d&c) What I went through is highly, highly unusual, though.  If you need to talk, please, please PM me. I went through it and know how what it feels like. Hang in there!!! ((HUGS))  Please PM me if you want to talk!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I have never dealt with miscarriage, but I can tell you that it’s my biggest fear. I would be the same as you if I lose my baby now and I’m only 7 weeks. B/c that’s your hope…it’s your child. There’s nothing silly about being upset for losing that.

Please be sure you take care of yourself. If you’re still feeling incredibly overwhelmed, it doesn’t hurt to talk with someone about your feelings. They are very valid, and please don’t think that they aren’t.

I’m praying for you that you can get pregnant relatively soon and that you make it through this really difficult time.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t have anything to say to make you feel better, just wanted to say how sorry I am. It is devastating.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m so sorry for your loss.  You have every right to be upset.  Don’t at all discount your feelings; your loss is very real, and it’s ok to be devestated right now.  I’ll keep you in my thoughts, winniewolf.  Hugs.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry. ))HUGS((

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I am sorry for your loss.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I know the feeling all to well. Grief is a process that comes with a miscarriage. It’s so hard to understand how you can feel so much for something that was only there for a short period of time. It gave me a whole new perspective on life and if having a miscarriage that early on i couldn’t imagine the grief a mother must feel miscarrying later in the pregnancy or losing a child after birth.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

You don’t need to feel “silly,” a pregnancy is a pregnancy.  I hate when people don’t think it “counts” unless you’re into the 2nd trimester. 

Take time to grieve, it’s only natural.  I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts. <3

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