Post # 1
I got engaged in August and one of the first things I did was ask my sister to sing at my wedding (next September 2014). There is a hymn I have always loved that I asked her to sing. I went to one of my good friend’s weddings this past September 2013 and her sister played the guitar and sang the same song. My best friend looked at me and said, “Oh no!” We were talking about it later and a different friend said, “well you can’t play it anymore, of course.” So I have been searching for another song. Nothing else feels right and it makes me a little sad. What a coincidence that we both picked that song out for our sisters to sing.
I just listened to it again and can just imagine us at the altar with it playing. Would it be horrible of me to still choose it? I plan to talk to my friend (the one whose wedding it was) just to tell her and make sure she is okay with it. Would you be mad if one of your friends used the same song that was played at your wedding?
Post # 3
@jeg14: You can’t play a song because someone else you know likes/plays it? That seems silly!
Post # 4
@jeg14: Im sure your friend didn’t think the song would go out of existence once it was sang at her wedding. Use it. if you think it would help then give her a heads up and tell her you had decided on this song prior to her wedding. Or don’t. It’s just a song.
Post # 6
@jeg14: Of course you can use it! Your wedding is a whole year after hers. Most of your guests won’t have been at your friend’s wedding, and many of those who were won’t remember the song from the first wedding anyway.
I’ve been to lots of church weddings and I’m sure some songs have been re-used. But – and this is the whole point – I don’t remember.
p.s. I do find it odd that you seem to have told several people of your song choice, 12 months before your wedding. Some things are better not over-shared. (EDIT: OK, I see from your reply below that’s not the case).
Post # 7
Thanks for the replies! I just have seen on here that girls get irritated with friends that they consider copy cats. Even though I figured it wasn’t a big deal, after my friend said that, I didn’t want to do anything over the line. And I didn’t tell several people, I stayed with 2 of my college roommates to go to the wedding and we were discussing the song on the way to the wedding (my roommate asked if my sister was going to sing). They are the only two (other than my sister and sister) that have even heard about wedding stuff.