Copycat Wedding

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 46
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Lots of things about your wedding will differ. You can’t claim ownership on vendors or places – Great vendors can be hard to find, and if yours were great I don’t understand why your sister would look elsewhere really. A park is a very common place to take wedding photos. The outfits don’t sound the same. The only thing that I would not be on board with is selling the decorations after she’s used them. If she wants them, they can be her responsibility (unless you are after the $$$). You’ve had your amazing day, let it go.

Post # 47
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I get it, you did all the legwork and now it’s like she’s copying your homework that you were proud of. Don’t help her. Don’t engage about her wedding anymore, sell your decorations before she can use them, and just be a guest. Don’t think about her wedding at all until it happens and then just enjoy getting to be at a nice wedding again. People will draw their own conclusions, anything you do will seem petty. One day this will all just be an annoying memory.

Post # 48
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378 posts
Helper bee

See, that’s why you should have had your wedding copy-writed. Then you wouldn’t be dealing with this issue. 

Realistically you’re thunder is gone because your wedding was last year. Your storm is over. 

There’s only so many ways to do a wedding–especially one in the same area. Once the day happens I’m sure it feel less similar. The pictures won’t be all that similar. 

 

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My little sister copied my other sister’s wedding so much that it was pretty funny. She should’ve just borrowed her dress as the dresses were nearly identical. Same colours, same flowers, same painted mason jars. We are going for a totally different style wedding

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

There is no thunder to steal. I’d probably be a little annoyed too, but you did it first so who cares? I had engaged couples ask me at my wedding if I minded if they considered my venue for their wedding. I was SO excited at the possbility of being able to attend a friend’s wedding at the same place. Sadly they all chose different venues, but I would jump at the chance to be able to relive a small part of the magic of that day. Obviously I don’t think you feel that way, but if it’s a done deal what else can you do?

Post # 51
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14899 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 Team get over it.  Tons of people have weddings at that venue.  No one is going to compare/remember the menu choices and food.  So she’s getting pictures done at a part, I assume there’s more than one tree?  Unless she’s taking your photos and recreating them, how would anyone even know its the same park.  You had your wedding, no one cares or remembers as much about it as you do.  I doubt anyone but you is going to be making any comparisons that day.  Enjoy the memories of your wedding and let her do hers, even if its similar.  There’s no thunder (if it even existed) to be stole at this point.

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

See, I would be thrilled if someone copied by wedding because a) it would mean that they loved my ideas and vendors; b) all my hard work actually benefitted more than just myself. That would make me really happy.

Yes, people are being harsh on you, but, honestly, your attitude kinda sucks. You’re begrudging your own sister her wedding because she liked yours enough to want some of the same things. I’m sorry, Bee, but that is petty and ungracious. And yes, hardly anyone will notice because they won’t remember your wedding from last year. This is a special time for your family. Your sister is getting married. Don’t create drama and strife where there doesn’t have to be any.

Post # 53
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263 posts
Helper bee

I went to a wedding last October. The only thing I remember about her dress is that it was white. I don’t even remember whether she had bridesmaids or not let alone their dresses. I have no memories of the decoration although I’m sure there was some. I don’t remember half the menu. 

While your wedding was a very special day to you, I can assure you that everyone else has long moved on and they don’t remember much of it. Nobody will notice any of the similarities apart from the venue perhaps. 

Post # 54
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would not worry about her having the same photographer, and makeup/hair as you. I would be upset about the venue and her wanting to use your decor. I would say no for the decor.

I went to many weddings after mine.. lots copied many things. One copied candy bar, favors, pretty much identical cake and same first dance song. It is frusterating people want to steal the best aspects from your day.

Post # 55
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89 posts
Worker bee

I never understand why this bothers people so much.  Don’t most people get their ideas from Pinterest or wherever else anyway?  While I’m sure that your wedding was lovely, it’s very doubtful that it was completely unique.  We all take ideas from others and in turn they take ideas from us.  I’d count it as a compliment.

Post # 56
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I think it’s a bit weird, if it was me I’d be trying to make my wedding as different as possible, so I didn’t feel like I was copying. I’m the youngest of 3, and our weddings were all very different and in completely different parts of the country, in very different types of venue (e.g. I had a church ceremony, they had civil ceremonies in a registry office and hotel respectively).

One of my friends had her wedding in the same church and venue (parent’s backgarden, unusual in the UK) as her older siblings. They used a lot of the same vendors. However, the colour schemes, flowers, decorations, menu etc. were all different. They each put their own stamp on things.

OP – I wouldn’t object to the same venue and vendors, she obviously thought the venue was lovely, and the vendors were good. I would side eye the same menu a bit personally. There’s also lots of options colour wise, but you obviously have similar tastes. Very few of your overlapping guests will remember that you had the same, bar recognising the venue.

ETA: I wouldn’t mention it to your family anymore either. There’s nothing you can do, she’s free to have whatever wedding she wants. You don’t have to share your decorations if you don’t want to. I wouldn’t share mine with someone else, I spent time and effort making them, and they can be re-used around the home (light up wine bottles) and would hate to see them damaged and then unable to be re-used by me. So you could use a ‘no, I’m keeping them as a memento’ if you want a friendly excuse!

Post # 57
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146 posts
Blushing bee

This is not a thing to get worried over, esp. if your husband says it’s not. Go and put your energy into making a happy marriage. You had your wedding first, so any copying only will make your sister look silly or whatever, if any of that is going to happen. Mostly, it won’t matter at all. 

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