Post # 16

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Buzzing bee
We are continuing to try. I’ve received no feedback from my doctors that we should stop, and at 35, like
mrsssb : – we just don’t have the time to wait. We’ve been trying for 6 cycles unsuccessfully so far and we want kids more than anything. Whatever happens, we’ll deal with as it comes, but it is what it is. We want multiple children and I’m still not pregnant. I just had an HSG this cycle and really hoping it’s successful for us.
Now, if I were in my 20s or even 30, that would be another story. I would probably hold off. But given my age and the fact that we’ve been trying for 6 cycles with no luck, we are already in the fertility testing stage and I have no plans to stop now. Women will always be getting pregnant, babies will always be born. I’ll take my chances.
Post # 17

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Busy bee
I have read all of your thoughtful comments and thank you all for your insight. This is probably one of the most non-judgemental boards I’ve been on when such a political topic has been brought up and I thank you.
My heart goes out to all of you that are currently pregnant and anxious, and those who feel like they can’t afford to wait any longer. I am staying home for every one of you. I hope that this turns itself around, or that we can find a treatment to help lessen the severity in the meantime.
Post # 18

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Bumble Beekeeper
So we currently didn’t have any plans to TTC. We already have a toddler and have actually been on the fence about having a second, at least I am on the fence. DH said the other day while I was joking around that our son is wild enough there’s no need for #2, that “he hasn’t scared me away from doing it again”…..so apparently he’s still pretty open to having a second.
That being said, I don’t know that I’d actively TTC during this. But I do recognize that already having a kid makes that a bit different vs someone who is just starting to try. My biggest holdup would be the current state of hospitals and L&D currently limiting to only one support person, and in many areas NO support person. To me that’s a big issue and I just can’t imagine going in to have a baby and my husband not being there due to this. I absolutely know that plenty of people have babies without their spouse due to military and other obligations out of their control, and I consider those to be very different situations.
I do think we’re about to see a huge surge in pregnancy announcements as people are self isolating and working from home. In my are we call those hurricane babies. 😉
Post # 19

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Bumble bee
bluebee19 : I planned to start this summer but now that is on hold. I am waiting to see if this does down or we get more information. Now I am thinming the fall but really we are just gonna havw to wait and see how these next few months goes. So many unknowns!!
Post # 20

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Honey bee
bluebee19 : In the same boat. D.H. and I are 31 and had planned to start TTC for our first (and likely only) this spring/summer, but are pushing it down the line and seeing how things look later this year. I’m in the US so I think even later this year could be unrealistic.
I am really disappointed, but I don’t want to take a bed from someone in respiratory distress or not be able to get the healthcare I need during pregnancy. I don’t want to say it’s nice to know others are in the same boat because it sucks for us all, but none of my friends are TTC yet, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it.