Coronavirus

posted 3 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 77
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Sugar bee

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zstbee84 :  I’m so sorry, bee. You have every right to be disappointed and sad. 

I’m not doing ivf but I’m also deciding not to ttc right now. I’ve been ttc for 7 months (8 cycles) now  so I realize that’s not that long in the scheme of things, but it still feels like a loss to be postponing. Yet I don’t feel like I can in good conscience put myself into the immune compromised state of pregnancy with a raging pandemic, and with how little we know about covid19’s effects on fetuses in early pregnancy, it’s just not a risk I feel willing to take. I know it’s not exactly the same situation, but I think I understand at least part of what you’re feeling right now. 

Post # 79
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Sugar bee

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zstbee84 :  Thank you for saying that. 6 months+ certainly feels like a long time, especially when you read the stats of what percentage of couples will get pregnant within 6 months and hear so many people saying they got pregnant on the first month of trying. 

Anyway, I think we’re right to feel concerned and as much as it sucks to delay trying for a baby right now, I know my anxiety would be through the roof if I were pregnant right now. A little over a week ago before anything in my city had been cancelled, I was in the tww and I started to freak out about the possibility of being pregnant and having to keep going to work and events. Well, I wasn’t pregnant obviously. But it gave me a sense of how I’d feel if I actually were pregnant right now and it was absolutely terrifying. So maybe there’s a silver lining here somewhere. 

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

So sorry, bee. I’ve been in a bad place myself, and just unbearably jealous of those already pregnant…I know it has its own set of anxieties, but knowing that it could be many, many months before we even think of trying is crushing.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I went away on a month-long trip for work at 6 weeks pregnant — and then came home after two weeks due to concerns I would get stranded if I didn’t (didn’t travel anywhere with any cases). Now I’m following public health guidelines for all travelers to self-isolate, which is ok. Working from home as I start to develop morning sickness and/or pregnancy fatigue doesn’t seem like a bad idea, and no socializing = nobody noticing I’m not drinking!

However, it does look like I won’t be able to get any antenatal care or ultrasounds for a while. I talked to my midwife, and she said they’re basically planning to cancel in-person appointments for anyone in the first trimester, as there aren’t really any medically negative outcomes from doing this and they need to minimize midwife risk. I think that’s a fair sacrifice for the sake of public healht, but would just really love to know if the pregnancy is progressing well! 

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Just want to add that right now there’s no reason to think the novel coronavirus poses any special danger to pregnant women and/or their babies. For those of us already pregnant, I don’t think we need to worry about that right now. 

Post # 84
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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knotyet :  I’ve been keeping my eye on that case as well. As sad as it is for a newborn to have the virus, I’m hoping that it was transmitted to the baby shortly after birth because they didn’t seem aware that the mother had COVID-19 until afterwards from what I’ve read. All of the other cases I’ve read about have shown that the virus does not appear to be passing to the babies in the womb or through other means like breast milk. 

We have finally made it to a week before my FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer) and this is not at all how I imagined what was supposed to be the most exciting time for us. This is my first chance at getting pregnant and I’ve just been a ball of anxiety. I trust my RE and know that if ASRM and the CDC were to release any new information that encourages the postponement of fertility treatment then we will do just that. Otherwise I will continue to practice social distancing and great hygiene, stay home and work from home as much as possible, and hope that we will be in a better place with this virus by the summertime. 

Post # 85
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Bumble bee

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zstbee84 :  

I don’t want to be callous, but I am actually very relieved to hear that IVF procedures are on hold right now.  Having experienced life threatening complications with my pregnancy and needing expensive prescription meds and frequent hospitalization, I do not think that deliberately moving forward with pregnancy when access to medical care may not be feasible is wise or safe.  I am concerned for the safety of pregnant women while this going on.

I have compassion for your fertility struggles, I do.  But I would be devastated to hear of pregnant women dying from complications because they couldn’t get treatment.  This is a real possibility for the next several months.

Post # 86
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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ladyvictoria :  I’ve thought of that too, but if that we’re the case, I don’t believe the baby would have tested positive that quickly. The virus has an incubation period, so the baby couldn’t have just gotten it during birth and already test positive. 

Post # 87
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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knotyet :  We just don’t know one way or another for certain. We’ll unfortunately have to wait for more cases of infected women giving birth and information. 

Post # 88
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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gimmepretty :  Even with your compassion, you cannot possibly understand what individuals and couples who are either planning or in the middle of treatment right now are experiencing with having to make big decisions. We are all trying to make the best decisions with the information that we have, and are relying on guidance from our medical professionals, the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), CDC, and other authoritative bodies. I don’t think any of us are taking this lightly after going through so much to get to this point. 

Post # 90
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Bumble bee

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ladyvictoria :  I said I was relieved because I think women are safer this way.  I’m relieved for women’s SAFETY. You’re free to decide for yourself while the option is there for you to make.  But the fact remains that pregnant women may have trouble getting access to medical care while pregnant.  This is why many hospitals are cancelling all elective procedures.

I did not do IVF but I had my own painful experiences with infertility.  I have compassion.  I also have concern.

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