Post # 1
My fiance’s family is kind of complicated because both of his sets of grandparents are divorced and remarried. That means there are four “grandmas” and four “grandpas” on each side. He’s close with one of the step-grandmothers, but not really with the other. How do we approach the issue of corsages and bouts? We have really cool guitar string ones for the groomsmen and dads and aren’t really sure if the grandparents and step-grandparents should all received them? We have even contemplated not doing corsages and bouts for them at all to avoid the hassle but don’t know if it would be tacky.
What do you ladies think we should do to avoid slighting anyone?
Post # 3
You have to do either all or none of the grandparents to avoid hurt feelings. Do you think any of them are expecting corsages or bouts?
Post # 4
We haven’t discussed it, so I don’t know that any of them are expecting them.
But would it be tacky to skip them all together?
Post # 5
If my grandparents had been alive, we certainly would have had bouts and corsages (or small bouquets) for them. However, if it is a really big budget issue, they could be skipped or just give each grandmother a single rose to carry. I definitely think you should include them all, step or otherwise.
EDIT–perhaps you could get your real/blood grandmothers something slightly different?
Post # 6
I have a very similar situation. We’re giving corsages and bouts to all the grandparents, both blood and step. My grandparents have all passed, which means FH’s are the closest I have, so I’m including them as much as I can!
Keep in mind that if your grandparents are more traditional, they may be hurt if you opt to not give them bouts or corsages.
p.s. We have the same date 🙂 Less than 8 weeks!
Post # 7
@CountryBee11: I think you’re right. We are just on a really limited budget and so buying eight of them kind of sucks. However, I think it will be worth it to make them all feel included. Side note- I think you are the only other Bee I have talked to getting married on June 24th! 🙂
Post # 8
I have the same situation with my step dad and grandma on my mom’s side. I am not close at all to them. In fact, I can not stand my step dad but I will still give them bouts and corsages because I don’t want to create drama or anger or anything. I don’t think they would care but my florist said it is a good idea to cover them anyways because she has done weddings where people get upset if they don’t get them.
Post # 9
@mlharrison23: Probably true. No one needs any more drama on the big day! 🙂
Post # 10
Maybe you could do the really cool guitar string ones for groomsmen and dads (assuming they are more expensive) and less expensive bouts for the grands. Same thing with the ladies. Go with the plan for BMs and moms and less expensive corsages for the grands. All of the grands will have the same thing and feel equal as grands.