(Closed) Cosleeping spinoff… Did you have the crib in your bedroom?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas

Baby Nachos is 11 months old today and still sleeping overnight in her pack ‘n play right next to me and I wouldn’t have it any other way. As long as I’m the one waking up in the middle of the night when/if she does, she’s sleeping next to my bed. It’s your decision to make and when the time comes you will know what is right for you and baby despite what other people might say (I’m looking at you, MIL).

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We live in a 1-bdr apartment, so the decision is made for us. We have set the crib up in our room and that is where she will sleep when she arrives. We plan on doing that until late next year when we move. She should be around 16 months by then.

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Our home is not very big, the babies room will be right across from our room and both doors will be open. If we had a very large house then yes the baby would be in our room.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Our son slept in a bassinet in our room for the first 3 months.  It was great to have him nearby for nursing, but once it was less frequent, we moved him to his room and his crib.  We ALL slept better once we made the transition 🙂 

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@ThingsThatShine:  I know you are not a mom yet, but its always good to practice not expressing your opinion in a way that is so judgemental of people who do things differently. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@ms.pascua:  The AAP recommendation is why we will have our LO in our room, but not in our bed, when we have one.

I just wanted to point out though that if you have your baby in a bassinet/cradle/etc. rather than a crib, there are other safety considerations, since bassinets aren’t held to the same standards as cribs. I think this article from Babycenter explains what to look for well: http://www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-buy-a-bassinet-or-cradle_427.bc

Post # 22
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Busy bee

@Janna19 (sorry, iPod won’t let me hit reply)-I really don’t care if it comes across as judgmental, I just wanted to fully explain and illustrate my line of thinking. I feel like the whole “3 months, then you’re out” is a really common practice and it’s something I find to be kind of odd…like I wonder where it came from and why so many people seem to view it as a rule…and what makes a baby suddenly able to go and sleep in a room all by himself/herself at this magical age of three months. I can understand if there are space restrictions or the baby somehow sleeps better in that situation, but it seems like a lot of people (not necessarily on weddingbee, but people on other forums and in real life) do it because it’s a “rule” (similar to how many people give babies rice cereal as the first solid at a certain age just because so many other people did it that way). I found myself questioning this “rule,” so I illustrated my line of thinking and asked if anyone else had come to a similar conclusion. No offense or judgement intended.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

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@ThingsThatShine:  I guess I never heard anything about any rule of thumb around 3 months.  I know a lot of my friends found 2-4 months the right time to move the baby for lots of reasons, but not one of them mentioned they did it because it was a “rule”. 

My other point I suppose you won’t fully understand until you are a mom, and are hit with judgement from people for every decision you make.  Its one thing to sit there and daydream about how you will be a perfect mother, and judge others decisions, and quite another to live it! 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

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@nachos:  same. 

Our plan is to stick the pack n’ play right next to my side so I can grab baby whenever I need him. It also has a changing station on it so it’ll be good for changings.

We plan to try what my mother tried…she only had us in her room for 4-6weeks and says that  it really helped us sleep better throughout the night….but first i’ll make sure to have a baby monitor all ready to go and a robe by my bed for those dashes to the nursery.

***about the crib: If ours had wheels i’d probably consider it but the one we’re looking at is too bulky to put next to the bed anyways so it would defeat the purpose for us

Post # 25
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Busy bee

It’s more like an unspoken rule/tradition/just what’s done sort of thing, and I see it happen a lot, so I question it. It’s up to you whether you view my questioning of a common practice as a judgement on you and others who practiced it. If you’re confident in your decision, why should it bother you?

Personally, I would welcome people questioning my parenting practices, and anything else I do in life. It would give me the opportunity to either inform them of why I am doing what I’m doing (possibly teaching them something in the process), or to research what they’re telling me and perhaps learn something from them. It’s up to me whether I view their statements/questions as judgement.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

just to be clear, it is not the questioning which I think is healthy, it is the judgemental, smug tone you took. It doesn’t bother me because of what I do, it is that there are other people here too and it is much nicer to have an atomsphere of healthy discussion and debate (which are good things) vs. judgemental, look-down-on-others opinions.  The general way moms judge each other all the time bothers me in general, I think it is not healthy. 

“Is it just me, or is anyone else kind of disturbed by the idea of sending a 3 month old off to sleep by himself/herself?  I mean really, think about it…”Well kiddo, you’re 3 months old now, so off you go!  You can’t do anything else for yourself, but we think you can handle this.  We’ll be in the next room, just cry if you need us!”…It just really strikes me as an odd thing to do. ” 

anyways, enough threadjacking! sorry OP.

Post # 27
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Busy bee

I tend to be very blunt and express exactly what I am feeling. I’m not the type to sugar-coat my views for the sake of making things sound friendlier. I’m from New York, and I’m from online forums where things are not sugar-coated. It’s just not in me to be as delicate in my wording as most Bees are. If you view my tone as smug/judgmental when to me it’s merely blunt and expressive, I can’t help you there.

Sorry, OP.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes, the baby’s crib is in our room, at first we had a bassinet but once she turned 3 months she started being in her crib and yes the whole SIDS  thing did go through my head the whole time, so it was a relief to have her there and check constantly and worked out perfectly

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We have had Sawyer in a cradle in our bedroom since he was born (he is 19 days old), it is defintely nice for me to be able to feed and change him at night without ever getting out of bed. We intended on moving him into his room at the 1 month mark, but I am feeling like we might wait a bit longer (until he is 2-3 months old), we will see, if he starts sleeping longer than 4 hours at a time we might move him earlier!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Because of our apartment, our room is really the only option. So baby will be with us for the foreseeable future.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We tried the pack n play with the bassinet for the first night, didn’t work.  Neither one of us slept, the dogs were all freaked out at every sound.  After that, my husband slept downstairs with her while I got some needed sleep. He got 1 month paternity and he normally works the night shift, so it worked for us.   She slept in the Rock n Play at that time.  Once she was 8 weeks old, I began the routine of bath, bottle and bed (yes, in her own room!).  We all sleep better this way.  Happy parents = happy baby.

 

 

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