Post # 17
I think mine cost my girls $45, they did pay my way which was very nice, but each of theirs was about $15. We took a bus around to local wineries, and one bought me lunch right beforehand because I have no tolerance. After that everyone picked up their own tasting fee and if they did not want to taste at one place that was fine as well.
Post # 18
We went to Jamaica a few weeks ago for mine. $15-20 sounds like nothing to me. Does she HAVE to go? I would tell her she doesnt have to come. If you guys will be at your (or someone else’s) house first I would just spend time with her there until you all get ready to leave so she doesnt feel completely left out.
Post # 19
$15 is crazy cheap! It’s got to be something else, because $15 is less than if Darling Husband and I went out for some decent fast food!
For the wedding I was in this summer, we spent well over $140 per person for a day of getting our nails done, going to a nice lunch and going to a “game” place.
Post # 20
@cece_intheuk: I considered offering to get it but I feel like it’s unfair to do that unless I’m covering everyone in attendance, and everyone else indicated they’d prefer somewhere nicer. Given that traditionally BMs will cover the bachelorette I felt like my approach was pretty egalitarian, but expected that if anyone would take issue, it would be this particular Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 21
I don’t know where you’re from and what the cost of living is, but $15 is extremely inexpensive in our area. That’s on the low end of what my friends and I spend if we meet up to catch up. Considering this is a bachelorette, I think it’s quite reasonable, unless finances are indeed very tight for her (e.g. in debt, unemployed). If it is financially a burden for her and you believe this is truly the case, perhaps you can offer to help pitch in so she’s not left out? Otherwise, if this is just an excuse, then let her bail.
Post # 22
@lilbluebird: Unless her financial situation has changed dramatically and very recently I can’t believe it’s a financial thing. I’m in Texas, FWIW.
Post # 23
I agree with a PP, see if you can get your Maid/Matron of Honor or another Bridesmaid or Best Man to discuss with her…
Post # 24
@MeantToBee1019: If you don’t believe this is truly a financial issue, then I would just let her bail. It’s better to have a bunch of people there that actually want to be there and if she’s going to a poor sport, then she’ll just ruin the night for you by being passive aggressive.
Candidly, given the way she has reacted in other situations, I think she’s just never going to be happy for you and is possibly jealous of you, whether it’s the nice wedding you planned or how happy you are or whatever.
Post # 25
$15 for the entire night?! You’re missing a zero, right? That’s the cheapest night I have EVER heard of.