(Closed) Could care less about wedding

posted 4 years ago in Beehive
Post # 92
2057 posts
Buzzing bee

Cut some corners (including the guest list). Order flowers from global rose (you can get 400 roses for $333.00). Check out the reproduction wedding dresses on the boards that are posted on here. Seriously if you’re just looking online you’re probably only seeing the pricey stuff. The stuff that’s a godo value generally doesn’t do a lot of advertising because they stay busy via word of mouth. Consider a Friday or Thursday wedding and save a lot of money there. There are literally soooo many ways to save costs on the wedding. I’m doing my invites on ebay for $80 LASER CUT (albeit I have a smaller guest list than you because Fiance and I recently relocated cross country). You can do evites for free, even. As for venue, we found a house on home away we could rent for two days for way cheaper than any traditonal reception venue – it’s huge and on a vineyard with a rose garden so we wont even have to decorate! Plus we can buy our own booze from costco for a few hundred bucks and hire a bartended for the day for $150 instead of spending a 4 grand on an open bar. There are so just sooo many ways to cut costs. You can do a wedding and a honeymoon with 20k! Just don’t cheap out on the photographer. 

Post # 93
2057 posts
Buzzing bee

Oh and I just saw your comment about HAVING to have it in the city.


You do not have to do that. I live in the bay area, aka the most expensive place to live in the country right now, with some of the worst traffic and highest cost of living. Almost every weekend march – october someone from my deptartment at work drives 30-80 miles away for a wedding. 

Post # 95
2057 posts
Buzzing bee

secondsofpleasure:  Thank you! I hope it helps! I will continue to post about budget stuff. I love fancy but I am also very, very frugal, and Fiance and live in a very high cost of living area (we don’t have rich families, just poor parents that live in Arkansas and Florida) so I will continue to research! I found a way to DIY a beautiful floral backdrop for $100 or $200. I hope everything turns out awesome!!!

Post # 96
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

secondsofpleasure:  First, congratulations on the engagement! Despite everything you’re experiencing, it really is a special time. 

As far as your fiancé is concerned, it’s impossible to keep everyone totally convenienced, have everything you want, and stay within your budget. He has to understand that, sooner rather than later. Someone is going to be inconvenienced, and driving an hour to a wedding IS NOT a major burden. Also, he does realize that not everyone he invites can or will attend–regardless if that wedding is downtown, an hour out, or in Vegas–correct? 

We are getting married in Philadelphia, which is another very expensive place to have a wedding. We focused on the people for whom we wanted to make it the most convenient. In our case, those people were our parents, siblings, and bridal party (which includes siblings and closest friends). 

You may have to go further out. You may have to cut down the guest list. You may have to choose a Friday or Sunday. You may have to do a limited open bar instead of a full premium open bar. There are a lot of little things you can do to moderate the cost–you and your fiancé simply have to be open to them. 

Post # 97
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m a NYC bride and you can absolutely do a wedding for $20k – that’s my budget.  I’ll admit, my father gave some money, my mother paid for my dress which was under $2k and my Maid/Matron of Honor paid for my veil.  But without all of that, there are ways to cut corners:

– my wedding is on a Thursday

– you can choose to NOT have an open bar and serve beer and wine instead

– cut down the guest list

– have the reception at a restaurant

– you know you can negotiate damn near everything, right?

– you don’t NEED a limo

– you don’t NEED a bunch of flowers – I’ve seen videos of weddings without centerpieces

– skip a bridal party (which means skipping gifts – another money saver)

– you don’t NEED favors

– do online invitations, or use sites like VistaPrint for seriously inexpensive wedding invites

– skip videography (although I don’t suggest it) but I’m just offering ways to cut costs

It’s not as bad as you think.  Most importantly, speak to your FH and tell him he needs to be realistic about a few things.  My FH wanted the big wedding and I didn’t because I knew how much weddings cost – he had no clue.  When he started seeing how much things cost (after we visited some venues) he started to wake up.  As far as your FH wanting it to be convenient for his family, that’s all fine and good but can you afford convenient?  No.  Our Thursday night wedding may not be convenient for some, but after speaking to a fair amount of friends and family 


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