- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
First, I’d just like to say hello to everyone on this board, as I am new :).
A little background information: I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, and I genuinely feel he is the one. I have been in relationships before, and none of them made me able to see a future so clearly and so brightly with someone before. When I think of the future, he is in it, and I cannot imagine living life without him. We are not only a couple, but we are best friends (at least I consider him my best friend). He is the sweetest man I have ever known, and will ever know. He constantly does things for me, takes care of me, and is just so affectionate and loving. We have so much fun together too. Even sitting together on a couch somehow turns into the most amazing time I’ve ever had. Simply put, he’s amazing. We’ve met each other’s families and get along very well with each other’s families. Lately, we’ve been spending more time with each other’s parents, and I’ve noticed my dad has grown a fondness for him (my dad avoided boyfriends I’ve had in the past). My mom constantly praises him too, saying she would love having a son like him. Again, this is unlike my parents to be so openly fond and praising of a boyfriend.
Now that there’s a little bit of background info. on the line, I would like to ask your opinion on something that has recently been on my mind. First, his behavior has shifted a little bit. He has always been very affectionate, loving, and caring, but he has been like this to the extreme lately; he will go out of his way to just do any little thing that will make me happy, even though I insist he does not need to do so. My parents, as I’ve mentioned before, have been increasing their praise of him. He does not want to go out with his friends anymore, saying that he has left that part of his life and it’s grown old and boring to him. I started getting a gut feeling that he was getting very committed to me, perhaps even thinking of proposing to me, then I had to take a step back and realize we have only been dating a few months, so I forgot about the whole thing for a while. Then, just recently, he started mentioning a “surprise” that is currently in the works. I asked him about it, and he told me “no hints.” He will bring it up from time to time, saying he has a “surprise” coming up for me. I keep going back and forth in my mind thinking “wow, what if he’s going to propose?!” to “it can’t be a proposal yet; we’ve only been dating a few months!” To clarify, I am not one to think you need to be together a certain amount of time to get engaged. If you feel it is the right time, then it is the right time, and I will say that I do feel it is the right time. I just mean I am not sure if he is feeling the same as I am. Yet, I can’t help but keep seeing signs. His friends (whom I am also great friends with) have suddenly become very, very quiet with me and won’t talk or interact as much with me as they usually do (and no, I don’t ever ask them anything about my boyfriend or the “surprise”). I am not sure what that could indicate. Whenever I ask MY friends what they think the surprise could be, they laugh, say he hasn’t mentioned anything to them about it, and then try to change or avoid the subject. My best friend in particular always seems to “need to go” whenever I bring it up, but gets really giggly and giddy before we end the conversation. I don’t know if it’s all just wishful thinking. I try not to think about it and just let things progress, but I can’t help but wonder. What do you guys think?