(Closed) could I do this? eek wedding on a budget is so stressful!!

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Member
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh man i read an article about this recently in one of my bridal mags. i will look for it and send you the link tomorrow.

Post # 4
Member
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

cocktail reception, Ours is starting at 7pm, dancing kicking off at 8.30  we are out the door by 11.15, all guests leave by 12.

However my brother is getting married soon and their having and afternoon tea party, ceremony starting at 1.30 over by 2.30 afternoon tea starts at 3.30 having a marquee and having a jazz band play in the background and then dancing will be sometime inbetween then 🙂 and the bridal party is leaving at 5.30 then going off to tea at a nice restaurant.

Post # 5
Member
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think an appetizer/cocktail or a dessert reception is a wonderful idea!

I especially like the idea of the dessert reception. If you held it later, say at 7pm or so, and warned people in advance then they would have time to eat first.

You could still have wedding cake, a candy bar, or whatever. I heard of someone doing an ice cream sundae reception and I thought that was just a fabulous idea. I think that is eminently doable.

Post # 7
Member
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Cocktail receptions are great for partying! Just be careful- some can end up being more expensive than a regular reception! You could just have a dessert reception and state that on your invite. Even if your ceremony is at 6 and the reception starts at 7, your guests can still eat a decent dinner before they come and be pumped for dessert with the dancing! Which actually sounds like a TON of fun to me!

Edit- Dont worry about your guests from out of town. Put together a welcome packet with restaurants nearby. Im reminded of the saying, “Those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter!” This is YOUR day and you can celebrate it ANY way YOU want!!

Post # 9
Member
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

sept26 just make sure to have filling foods–carbs and protein, you know? Like you could do a pasta station and then have some cheeses, fruits and veggies, breadsticks and bruschetta/crostini and that would basically be a meal!

Cocktails can be more expensive, but done right, they can be better too–more people up moving around, more dancing, more fun! People don’t stay tied to their chairs all night. And no one can judge you for having the party you can afford–they should be happy to celebrate your marriage with you! Good luck!

Post # 10
Member
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think the dessert reception sounds really fun! I think your FI’s family will understand that you’re on a budget.  If they don’t want to fly out then they’re free to rsvp no.  They’ll know ahead of time that it’s a dessert reception and can make their decision accordingly.  But you know, I really don’t see that happening.  They love the two of you and will want to see you get married.  Also, if they really really want a full meal, then they can contribute to the budget.  Otherwise, they don’t have any room to criticize.

Post # 12
Member
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i think that cocktails and dessert sounds like a blast!  and don’t discount the morning wedding… brunches with a mimmy (mimosa) bar can be inexpensive too! and look at off days like thurs/fri/monday nights…. there are typically deep discounts for nights other than saturday! if you have your heart set on the cocktails and dessert you might want to add some cocktail apps and do not go over a length of 4 hours… you can always talk to a favorite bar about having it there…. typically cheaper to go that route too!

Post # 13
Member
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it will be great. I’m also on a strict budget and I’m only having dessert and drinks. I’m planning on having an ealier wedding though. I was thinking having the ceremony at 2 and then the reception to follow. You would then be betwen lunch and dinner. I guess it depends on if you want the dancing all evening or what. But I would take into consideration the people flying in…But…it’s your wedding and YOU are the one paying for it! Good Luck!

Post # 14
Member
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Ours is a dessert reception as well, and we’re having it following our 1:30pm ceremony. We figure that’s late enough to ensure that people have eaten lunch, and it won’t go late enough that people are expecting dinner. My cousin had desserts only AND dancing, but her ceremony started at 4:00pm (and required people to stop and grab dinner between the ceremony and the reception). I think if you were going for desserts, AND dancing, it would have to be well after dinner-time (maybe a ceremony starting at 6:30 or 7:00?).

We dealt with the ‘I travelled all this way for DESSERT?’ when we first told people about the reception, but ultimately, if they want to be at the wedding because they love you, they aren’t going to care much about what/when they’re fed.

Post # 16
Member
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would be very careful about leaving to go to dinner with the wedding party.  It can come across as rude to have two levels of guests, and the people who don’t go to dinner will feel like they were the second string or something.  What you could do is either go off for a fancy dinner just the two of you, or else leave the reception at around 5, but have everyone go and change and then go to your nice dinner at 7 or 7:30, that way it is more separated from the reception.  That way, the guests who aren’t going to dinner will see it as: “oh, we’re just going out to dinner with some people while they’re in town” rather than “ok now the important guests get to go to the dinner part of the reception and everyone else should leave.”

I think it sounds nice though, and nice work standing up to the naysayers!  It’s my biggest pet peeve when friends or relatives tell you that you MUST have something at your wedding, but aren’t willing to pay for it.  Who are they to tell you how to spend your money?

The topic ‘could I do this? eek wedding on a budget is so stressful!!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors