Could I hear from women who weren't able to take maternity leave?

posted 9 months ago in Parenting
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had assumed they were in the states. OP hasn’t returned though so I hope she is at least reading and finding some useful information. 

If she is employed but can’t afford to not be on a full wage, it might be worth her discussing this with her employers. Some companies here enhance the stat pay and that is discretionary so if OP is valued by her company they may be able to up the pay slightly.

but I think the main this OP needs to do is work out a plan in case  a c section. If she has to drive for work she might not be cleared to do so until 6 weeks.

 

also I was thinking it might be worth her getting some nice post baby work clothes. It will take longer than 3 weeks for her body to go back to normal / she might still be bleeding / have milk boobs. Having well fitting smart clothes for work will help.

 

beevincent18 :  

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Twizbe :  If you look at OP’s prior posts it appears she’s a contracted employee so I don’t think she’s eligible for any mat leave so i’m assuming that’s why she’s only taking 3 weeks off (op correct if i’m wrong). I am in the US and i’m not really sure how CA works with maternity leave and contractors. 

 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Not sure why some posters are encouraging not using epidural. I don’t think not having one will speed up your recovery significantly (if at all).

I had an epidural and walked out of the hospital within 24 hours of my delivery. And I had little to no soreness after 3 days.  Just didn’t want you to think it is not an option if you want it.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

sunworshipbride :  my coworker went back to work after three weeks. She had the ability to work remotely 2 days each week until 6 months post birth. She had a natural birth and said physically she was fine but mentally it was tough to not feel guilty about leaving her tiny baby. But she is an amazing mom and works so hard to provide for her family. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

OP I saw on your other post that you’re having a c-section. I would highly encourage you to see if you can take more than 3 weeks off. Please talk to your doctor about this. I was barely off pain meds at 3 weeks PP, and wasn’t even cleared to drive yet. I was still in a decent amount of pain, too. If you have complications, it could be worse. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

 Second this – if you know you have to have a c section, you need to plan for 6-8 weeks out. You might be lucky and recover quickly, but most doctors will tell you that you need 6 weeks to recover. A section is major abdominal surgery if you’re in Canada do you not get any paid sick leave?

 

i was also thinking about other things that might help the OP. Here in the Uk you can claim maternity allowance if you don’t qualify for maternity pay. Is there something similar for you.

 

id also tell you to check the legal status of where you are. Here it is illegal for any woman to work in the 2 weeks after giving birth. 

 

beevincent18 :  

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