(Closed) Could my one year old be afraid of the dark?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

It could be the dark, but based on your post I’m kind of doubting it. I think it stems more from not having you around and feelings of seperation. It could also be something that is bugging her. Perhaps her bedding is affecting her sleep and making her cranky?

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Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Personally, I think she’s just used to be snuggled to sleep now, and you’re only reinforcing that by cuddling every time she wakes. When she wakes during the night, do you cuddle her for a few minutes, until she falls asleep again?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I highly doubt she is afraid of the dark at this age, but she could be going through some seperation anxiety. If you don’t want her in your bed, this is what you do. First, quit taking her to bed with you. For the first couple of nights, let her cry for about 10/15 minutes and see if she falls back asleep on her own. Then go in her room and hold her for a bit, but don’t let her fall back asleep in your arms. Put her in her crib before she does that. Let her cry for a bit, then repeat. Eventually she will fall asleep. After a few nights of that, go in there if she still doesn’t fall back asleep on her own in 10/15 minutes but instead of picking her up, give her a back rub while she is still in the crib. Do that for a few nights. Eventually, she will wake up, cry, then fall back asleep without you. Then she might not wake up at all. This is what I did for both of my kids and it works. Yeah, you go with no sleep for a while, but it’s totally worth it to not have a baby in your bed. That isn’t really safe anyway.

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Fall_In_Love22:  Dear Daughter doesn’t do well with CIO either. We have tried it so many times, and she just screams and doesn’t fall asleep, and it’s only for about 20 minutes if she does fall asleep. I think it probably has more to do with separation than being afraid of the dark.

We bedshare still, and Dear Daughter likes to be touching me in some way pretty much all night. I’m hoping she will grow out of it soon, because it is pretty tiring and we’d love to have our bed back. It’s just frustrating to me when people tell me to just let her cry and she will fall asleep. Just because it works for some babies, that doesn’t mean it will work for your baby. /rant haha

I think I remember your DD’s name is Riley too. Maybe it’s a Riley born in Novemeber thing lol.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Fall_In_Love22:  Every time I have tried CIO, Dear Daughter gets so upset that she poops. Literally has the crap scared out of her =\

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

My little man is 4 now but he had the same thing when he was around 1- had moved to his own bed and everything was fine. Come winter and suddenly he wants to family bed again. We could not figure out what was going on- and really the best we could think of was that it was the dark. He’s a pretty big snuggler so we though maybe a dependancy issue… but why would it start up after being okay before? 

CIO never worked for him and we tried so hard to get it to work. First we tried to let him do so for a few minutes more than a handful of times and nothing was working. So then we though we just werent sticking to our guns long enough, after so many people said we just had to resist the urge… and he went for a solid half hour and he almost made himself sick. Passing out from crying was not the answer in my book, haha. I’ll extra admit that for some kids it works, but not for my ds. 

What did get him back into his bed on his own was trying out different combinations of lights and decoations. Night light? Not enough. Night light and the pillow pet that lights up/plays sounds? Getting better… Christmas/fairy lights and a soothing sounds of the ocean? YES! 

We also found that having no pictures on the walls helped for whatever reason. Maybe he would wake up and see the animals (he had a mural of cutesy animals) and in that dream/awake/alone in the dark-state got scared? Honestly no idea. 

I don’t think its completely outside the realm of possibilities that your Dear Daughter doesn’t like being in total darkness alone. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Fall_In_Love22:  That’s rough! My nephew is like that. Problem is, he is turning 5 soon, and he still sleeps with my sister and bro-in-law. I guess if my idea doesn’t work I don’t know what to. But I feel for ya!

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