(Closed) Could She Be A Flower Girl?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is our niece too young to be our flower girl?
    Yes! Don't try to put her in the wedding. : (17 votes)
    37 %
    No, she should walk down with her sister. : (13 votes)
    28 %
    No, she should be pulled down via wagon. : (11 votes)
    24 %
    Other - explain in comments. : (5 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    1428 posts
    Bumble bee

    Oh…I’ll keep her in my prayers! I think you should see how she’s doing right before your wedding, she may want to walk down the aisle with her big sister, or she may totally love riding in a wagon. If it was my niece, I would definitely include her but based on her age and seeing how she’s doing healthwise, gage it on that.

    Post # 4
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i say she is too young but having someone push/pull her in a wagon/old fashion pram would be a better idea than someone carrying her

    i also worry about the stress of the day would put on a child so young and her parents.  you will have to work her sleeping & eating patterns into your schedule so she is rested otherwise youre going to have a whiney baby on your hands with stressed parents

     

    Post # 5
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    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    my 15 month old would climb out of the wagon faster than you could say his name and then run wild around the room.

    I don’t know how he will handle walking in our wedding in april when he will be almost 2, but I plan on trying to have big brother hold his hand down the aisle and if that doesn’t work then he can just go sit with grandma and grandpa..

    I think if you really want her to be in the wedding you should give her a chance, but also have an alternative plan in case she freaks out or anything

    Post # 7
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Honestly, you never know how kids will react until the day of the wedding. My FSIL’s two nephews (4 and 6) both had colossal meltdowns and had to be put in a time out instead of walking down the aisle.  My flower girl, who is a wonderful and adorable angel, had a tough day on our wedding day.  She made it down the aisle, but had to take breaks during the wedding.  

     

    You should make it really clear to your family that you completely understand that it may not work out for this baby to be a part of the ceremony.  You can have a plan for her in a pram or wagon, but make sure her mom understands that you won’t be upset or disappointed if the plan needs to be changed at the last minute.  Also, a decision should probably be made much closer to the wedding since children’s personalities develop more and you will see if she is a quieter or noisier baby, and whether or not she tends to be tired or napping during the time your ceremony will be held.

     

    My one year old niece was an honorary flower girl – she was in the program, but her mom felt it would be better to leave her with a baby sitter for the ceremony.  You might want to consider doing the same.

    Post # 8
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    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted for the Wagon. IF you can pull it off, I say go for it!

    Post # 9
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    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I think she’s too young, but if you really want to do it, definitely not alone. (i.e. with sister)

    Sorry to rain on the parade.

    Post # 10
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    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We were going to have my niece be the flowergirl, and my Fiance thought she might be too young at the time of the wedding. But she will be about 3.  I think that would be a good age, don’t you guys think?  And I think if your niece can follow directions and walk, then it would be fine to have her in the wedding.

    Post # 11
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    1428 posts
    Bumble bee

    Much positive energy & prayers on their way. I’m gonna go off on a tangent here (sorry), but my uncle (my mum’s only brother and my godfather) had a heart attack on Saturday and we prayed and prayed (he’s in TX we’re in MA). We thought we would lose him, but thanks to the wonderful staff at Cy-Fair Med Ctr in Houston, and all of our prayers, he made it through. I am, by no means, a super religious person, but I do believe in the power of prayer. (((Hugs))) JeanL.

    Post # 12
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I think she is too young. Include her in a special way in the pictures, but she shouldn’t be going down the aisle–it won’t be meaningful to her, and the people you are actually honoring by trying to include her don’t seem to want it.

    Post # 13
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    ditto marigold.

    Post # 14
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    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m surprised her family doesn’t want her in it.

    Post # 15
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    567 posts
    Busy bee

    i think she should have a special role in the wedding, but not as a flower girl.  how about putting her in a cute dress and having mom carry her to her seat right before the processional? that way everyone is seated and will see the gorgeous baby, but no pressure on any sort of “performance” and she’ll be in mama’s arms.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think she’d be adorable being pulled down the aisle in a wagon.. just to include her and maybe have an older girl throwing the petals… she could be your flower baby instead of flower girl…

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